how to approach conversation?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
how to approach conversation?
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Sun, 07-09-2006 - 8:20pm

I found this guy on Yahoo Personals yesterday who's profile stated that he was from my city, but was currently going to school somewhere else. I really liked his profile, and we had a lot in common, so I sent him an icebreaker, since I wasn't paying for a membership. To my surprise, he sent one back, so I figured that he wasn't a paying memeber either, so if I wanted to contact him, I'd have to join.

So I joined, gave him my e-mail address and my mySpace page address. He found me on mySpace, requested me as a Friend, and e-mailed me, and also gave me his regular Yahoo address.

In his second e-mail to me, this is what he wrote, "I had a personals account a while back, but dropped it because it doesn't make sense with me down here."

So I'm debating on how to answer him. I mean, I know he's got to be at least 1000 miles away, and will be for probably another year or so, but he IS from my city, so I'm thinking that if we can get to know each other for a while, then maybe we can meet when he comes back, and it won't be so awkward.

I'm not really much into the "dating scene", b/c I think that dinners and movies and crap like that is excruciating with someone you barely know. So I'm OK with getting to know him without the pressures of "liking each other" and having intimacy thrown into it right away. But I'm also actually looking for someone to end up romantically involved with at some point, not just a friend that I e-mail.

So how do I make that evident in my response to him?

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Mon, 07-10-2006 - 11:38am
I think what you said here is perfect.
heather 5-18-10