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How to ask?
| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 8:09pm |
I recent had a very nice man (he really is!) email me through lavalife.
Anyway, he said a few things that concern me - first, that he has a "hearing problem", and second, that his dad died last summer.
I've never met anyone who has had a parent die (at least at our age). How do I know if he's ok enough to be dating? And how do I find out how bad this hearing problem is? I don't necessarily care, but I'd like to make sure I don't have to learn sign language or something.


About his dad death it could be an accident or health problem but I would not be too concerned. We all are prone to it at one point or the other
I'm not really sure how a parent dying would have an impact on a guy's dating ability. If it were very recent, I could see not being up for going out, but it doesn't sound like it's *that* recent.
As for how bad his hearing is, I think you're just going to have to find out when you meet him.
I'm sure it was very hard for him to lose his father, but you know nothing about it yet.
I don't think a parent dying almost a year ago will have a significant impact on his ability to date. Yes, it's a tragic situation, but life goes on and most people are able to cope pretty well with a parent passing away. If it were a spouse, I'd be more concerned, but it's not.
As for the hearing impairment, I agree, the best thing to do is to ask non-threatening questions of how he gets along with it and how it affects him. If you approach it from the fact that you are interested in learning about him and his life rather than "if you're really deaf, I can't date you!" kind of thing, then it should be OK.