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| Sat, 01-06-2007 - 4:46pm |
Is there some way that I can convey to a guy I am going to meet that I would like to be friends even if the meeting results in "no sparks"?
I'd like to say something like, "I'm looking forward to meeting. I already know we get along, so I'm looking forward to our being friends if nothing else."
Would that strike the right note, or would that sound as if I am already dismissing the possibility of dating?
This is the guy I've been talking about connected to the photos. He still hasn't seen my photos because he hasn't asked for them and it seems a little strange to send them if we are going to meet on Monday. (Yes, I've learned my lesson. In the future I say, "I am going to send you these pictures" instead of offering, "If you like, I will send you a link to some other pictures" and assuming he's going to say yes. I also now know to send them with snapfish.)
Anyway, I suspect he will lose interest in me as a potential date pretty quick when he sees me. (I'm not putting myself down. I am chubby and he is not.) SO I really want to keep it open to be friends. Because we are practically co-workers, it seems to me that he might be motivated to be friends also, if he is not too embarrassed by the dating thing.
Thoughts?
Elsa

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Well, I didn't think he would ghost because of the work connection, but I was afraid he would find some polite excuse not to do lunch. And I still worry that some of the romantic excitement may have gone based on those pictures. (Though a couple of them were really good pictures.)
But I am feeling good because when I got online a bit ago, he was on IM and contacted me. (We've e-mailed mostly, but we exchanged IM's also and once before he sent me a quick IM greeting while we were both at work.) Anyway, he teased me about not being in bed and I said that actually I was in bed, writing on my laptop and he said something about lucky laptop to be in bed with me. I wasn't sure how to respond so I just ignored it and asked him why he was still up and we talked a little more and then said goodnight. But I am kind of happy that he is making "suggestive comments" to me because it means he hasn't completely discarded the possibility of dating even though I am chubby.
Of course, tomorrow it may turn out that *his* pictures are twelve years old and that he is even more overweight than I am. Or he could have lied about his height, or have terrible table manners or be one of those people who can't carry on a conversation in person. :)
We'll see.
I'll let you all know how it goes. Thanks for the support.
Elsa
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