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| Fri, 03-31-2006 - 11:37pm |
Hey,
This is the first time I have posted here. I met this guy online that I really like, but he just told me that has a history of psycological problems (OCD and depression) and it is enough that I don't want to DATE him. How do I tell him this? I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I don't want to be in a relationship with him. Help please.
This is the first time I have posted here. I met this guy online that I really like, but he just told me that has a history of psycological problems (OCD and depression) and it is enough that I don't want to DATE him. How do I tell him this? I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I don't want to be in a relationship with him. Help please.

What Juliara said.
You might also refrain from prefacing with an opener like "after closer evaluation"... He might not like that. All teasing aside, I can't blame you for considering the past mental health history to be a red flag.
As someone who has dated men dealing with depression/persistent counseling- I'd choose differently next time. It can really affect the quality of a relationship. Not for me.
I disagree with the "making up an excuse" (don't lie - just be vague) ANJ with the suggestion to say that you've met someone else and want to see where it goes.