How do I bring this up without sounding needy?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2009
How do I bring this up without sounding needy?
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Fri, 12-17-2010 - 11:02am

Hi Ladies. After a breakup I decided to give online dating a shot. After messages from players and men well out of my dating age

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 12-17-2010 - 11:07am

I don't think it's "needy" to have certain standards.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2009
Fri, 12-17-2010 - 12:25pm

Honestly I have never really "dated" anyone. Serious relationships is all I have ever been in. I have been two or three dates which immediately turned into bf/gf after a discussion about it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2010

I am a firm believer that if you are afraid to talk to someone about something that he/she might not be the right person for you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2009

You are in the driver's seat.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 12-18-2010 - 10:27am

When I started dating after my 1st divorce about 10 yrs ago, that's really the first time in my life that I dated more than one guy at the same time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2003
Maybe he just missed you and wanted to gaze at your profile picture? You never know why he logged in, and please know that some dating sites are not always accurate about that.

Sounds like you are ready to have a chat about what his expectations are...I don't think you'll sound needy if you ask HIM if he wants you to take down your profile. Keep the conversation light and casual and feel free to profess your ignorance about how to handle this.
sooooobig