How do I get rid of him?

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Registered: 11-20-2003
How do I get rid of him?
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Wed, 06-21-2006 - 8:43pm
About a couple of weeks ago, I posted a question about a flaky guy that I'd encountered. Everyone advised me to get rid of him. Right after my posting, my oldest daughter ran a check on the guy and found out a few years back, he was put in jail for domestic abuse with his now ex-wife. Well, naturally this frightens me. I didn't hear from him for a solid week after my posting, then recieved 2 "good morning baby" texts on my cell. Not knowing what to say, I ignorred them hoping he would just go away. I know, I know, I probably should have dealt with it. There was nothing again for a few days, then another good morning text yesterday. He called my cell at noon today and I didn't answer. He left a "called to see what you are doing" message. He text me in the middle of the afternoon asking "r u mad at me?". Again I ignorred this. Then, another call a few minutes ago of which he didn't leave a message. My oldest daughter, who is 28, says to just ignor it and he'll get the hint. I have a feeling that's not working. Frankly, I don't know what to say to him. I don't know the guy, and have only met him the one time. The domestic abuse charge does frighten me. Should I continue to ignor the calls and text messages? Should I email him telling him that I know about the charge? Or just make up something like I'm sorry, I don't think it will work out, etc, etc? Advice would be greatly appreciated.
eanie
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-21-2006 - 8:57pm

I would just ignore him. If you can, block him from texting you (my cell phone provider allows me to block texts but not calls--look into what yours allows).

Any contact (even to tell him you're not interested) will just encourage him, I think.

Sheri

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 9:13am

I agree with Sheri - ignoring him is the best thing to do.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 4:00pm

Agreed.

heather 5-18-10