How do you deal?

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Registered: 10-17-2002
How do you deal?
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Sat, 03-05-2005 - 11:08pm
I have friend that is in a new, great relationship. I am happy for her and happy that she is happy. Every time I see her, she can do nothing but talk about him and their wonderful dates and all the things they have planned. But as my own love life has taken a recent really bad downturn and I have yet another guy that only wants to sleep with me instead of actually be in a relationship with me, it is so difficult for me to listen to all her blissful talk. I know I am being a selfish be-yotch, I really do know that. But does anyone have any tips on how ty deal with this? She is one of my best friends, but when I hang out with her, all I want do do is come home and cry.

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Registered: 08-22-2003
In reply to: vexer_hw
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 1:25pm

hmmm. it seems she is the type to throw herself into relationships.

how i guage a good friendship is when we can still chat about the same things with/without a boyfriend.... if you are finding you aren't, then its time to talk to her about it. things change as in the amt of time spent w/ the friend, etc. But the quality time spent shouldn't change at all.

Hang in there. I think you just need to try and spend some time w/ a single person and also talk w/ your friend about the issues. A good friend will understand and work through it with you.

You know I can relate because I"m going thru a similiar thing w/ my friend right now. Altho, she seems to think I'm this insecure/jealous girl right now which is so untrue. Yuck.

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Registered: 05-15-2004
In reply to: vexer_hw
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 1:45pm

<< eric : that is kind of lame about your co-workers and the 23 y/o. Why don't they try to hook you up? maybe they assume yo'uve got a gf? i'd be upset too. >>

SG,
I think it might have to do with me being older and divorced -- could be they are afraid it's a touchy subject with me or something like that.

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Registered: 02-07-2005
In reply to: vexer_hw
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 2:47pm

Hi Eric,

When they say things about hooking up the 23 y/o co-worker with women, have you said anything to them that you're looking also? Maybe said in a joking manner, but it might get the point across. How long have you been divorced? Is it a touchy subject with you Eric?

Sunshine

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Registered: 08-22-2003
In reply to: vexer_hw
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 4:02pm

yes that is true... maybe throw in the 'hey - shes cute' around them. I agree w/ the poster who said you should jokingly say im looking too!
Still on a break from OLD?

What hobbies do you have? Have you tried any clubs? that is a great way. Or coffee shops. I went to one over the weekend and did some work there, and OMG - so many cute boys. Have to hang out there more often ;). i am dating someone but its not exclusive yet, soooo game on!

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