How do you get someone to responde to ad

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Registered: 08-09-2010
How do you get someone to responde to ad
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 7:39pm

Hi, I am a single mom, and I am back in the dating game, and I am really not sure how to go about this online dating thing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-02-2010
Thu, 09-30-2010 - 3:13pm

Welcome to online dating!!

I think you should just be yourself and speak from your heart about what you are looking for. Be real with your photos and honest throughout the process.

Good luck!!


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Registered: 11-07-2007
Tue, 09-28-2010 - 8:30am

I met my bf online on bbpeoplemeet and he is totally awesome.

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 8:02pm

Some people try to write a profile that casts as wide a net as possible. I'm not sure that's the best idea. I write profiles that are honest but very specific. For example, I don't enjoy dancing so I clearly state that in my profile. Why do I want to attract a woman who finds dancing very important. I'm an atheist, so I really don't want to hear from a woman who seeks a God fearing man.

Use your profile as a filter to weed out those that don't interest you. After all, you're looking for quality, not quantity.

Another point is to make sure your profile is well written. Check the syntax as well as the spelling (responde in your case). Before you post something have a friend proof read it. We often miss our own mistakes. A poorly written profile reflects poorly.

It takes a thick skin to participate in OLD. It's a slow and sometimes painful process but I still haven't figured out anything better.

Best of luck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2010
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 12:36am
I met my sweetie on line. I think when you write a profile you should also put what you are looking for in a man. What type of relationship too. Good luck.
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 8:13pm

I tell a lot of people to buy "Fine, I'll Go Online." It's a great resource that will tell you everything you need to know--it's smart, to the point and an easy read.

In the meantime, I would suggest a few things: Don't write too much, but don't write only one paragraph. Avoid cliches. Don't complain about an ex. Don't say "I can't believe I'm doing this." Be honest. Let men know what you like to do, don't just say "I like to read," be specific about which books. The idea is to be fairly specific about what you like to actually do (and presumably what you'd like to do with a partner). Paint a vivid picture.

You can go back and read lots of the posts on this board and get a lot of advice. Plus, there are a lot of articles on iVillage.

Good luck!