How do you handle breakups?

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How do you handle breakups?
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Sat, 05-14-2005 - 9:35pm

Reading small_peanut's post I am amazed by her resiliance and positive attitude.


My relationship experience is limited to mostly one or two dates or casual (i.e. non-exclusive) dating. When those ended I felt sad for a short time but

 

 

 

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 12:01am

Peanut's recipe for a break up:


Get massages and lots of them.


Buy a new convertible (joke)!


Book a vacation to someplace tropical and look ahead and realize you can't control it

 
 
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Fri, 05-20-2005 - 9:53am

Both well and not so well, depending on the situation.

I took my divorce pretty hard, although I did realize that in the long run I would be happier. I also knew that I had tried hard to be a good husband and I had done everything I could to try and make things work.

When my college fiance broke things off with me I was devastated. It took a long time to get over that one. It was different than my marriage in that I understood that I was not the best boyfriend I could have been. I did learn a lot from that relationship and ultimate breakup.

Eric

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Fri, 05-20-2005 - 10:52am

I have actually bought a new car to get over someone, not exactly just to get over him, but I wanted something totally new and that had nothing to do with him. My most recent break-up I was a little more drastic and moved to a new city a few months later. Again this wasn't entirely based on him but it was a catalyst because I had been unhappy where I was living for a while. The last guy really broke my heart and I knew if I stayed within 100 miles of him I probably wouldn't actually get over him completely.

I find I like to have new things around me to get rid of the old memories. I find that when a break-up is impending (it is kind of wierd because things seem to fall in fall place for me before it happens almost as to cushion the blow a little bit) or just happens that a lot of new doors open for me. I do try and think things happen for a reason and that they will always work out in the end if you are willing to accept change.

I also find ice cream and shopping to help also :)

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 11:07am

SP/Katortott-

That is funny you both mentioned that. Two years ago I was very much in love. My car was on the fritz! Anyway, my then bf owned an automotive repair business. He just purchased a brand new mini van and wanted to give it to me.

I absolutely was NOT keen on a mini van (no offense to any minivan owners). However he was SOOO happy to be able to give it to me. I kept putting it off and putting it off. Anyway, he broke up with me. I was devistated. However one saving grace of the break up was now..I didn't have to get a mini van.

I went out and bought a brand new cherry red.....ummm Taurus LMAO. Although not a mini van, I am a mommie and have to be somewhat practical. None the less, it did help me feel a little better.

Just thought I would share.

Cheers to SP attitude and break up!

Jodie

 

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Fri, 05-20-2005 - 3:26pm

It's true; I have a bigger HIGH off the purchase and anticipation of my new car then I've had over any man in years including my ex...I still can't focus very well I'm so excited about it - nuts! My energies and focus are on work and the car - not even as excited about Maui even though I am but it's not in the front of my head, the car is, ha!



SP

The Small Peanut

 
 
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 8:07pm

Hmmm...Reading about these post break up car purchases has me a little worried. I've been thinking about getting a new car. My older daughter will have her own car soon so I won't need my big a*s SUV to tote kids and hockey gear around anymore. Does this mean my r'ship is doomed?!? LOL Maybe I'll wait on that purchase!

Edited to add:

OMG... I for got. My BF is thinking of a new car too!




Edited 5/20/2005 8:32 pm ET ET by luv2004
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Fri, 05-20-2005 - 10:15pm

Oh, man!

Linda
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Registered: 04-21-2003
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 10:35pm

Hmmm, Jhoover lost 20 lbs via Breaking Up....but Katortott advocates "ice cream and shopping." So does the end of the affair lead to weight loss or weight gain?

As for me, I don't think I've ever had the classic breakup. More often, the guy just called less and less often... Once, I moved away. But he worked on a mountain in the summers, so I didn't feel as though we were together, anyhow. When I was the one dumped, it took me about as long to get over him as the time we were together (a matter of weeks or months).

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