How do you keep the music playing?

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Registered: 01-29-2005
How do you keep the music playing?
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Mon, 05-30-2005 - 7:13pm

Hi all - it's been a while. Cannot believe I've been OLDing for almost 6 months already! In short, it was a steep learning curve. Then I dated one person for about a month - the scumbag created a new profile and put it up behind my back.

SO, now I'm in a new "relationship" and it's going well. The question is, how do you keep it going? I know there can be many shapes and forms for this answer, ranging from agreeing to take down both profiles to agreeing to be exclusive - sex related, dating related, etc.... I guess what I want to know is - what form would the ideal relationship take after a few dates for you?

TY!
JAYME

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 9:52pm

Well, there's "getting" it going and then there's "keeping" it going! Don't have a clue about the getting, which is why I'm still single after 1 year on OLD.

But the keeping part I've got down pretty well. Basic rules of thumb:

- get mad, have a fight, and then for God's sake get over it!
- keep in mind that the other person will have at a minimum 3 things that really really bug you. Acceptance is the cornerstone of any loving relationship.
- touch each other regularly (I don't mean in public).
- be your partner's biggest fan on earth.
- have a life outside of and separate from the relationship.
- say what you mean and mean what you say in the moment; don't hold things in and then lash out later.
- keep a cool head.
- don't over-analyze the day-to-day minutae of life.
- be grateful that someone thinks well enough of you to exclude romance with others.

That's it for now.
amjay