How do you step away from your "type"?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
How do you step away from your "type"?
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Sat, 11-25-2006 - 10:28pm

I decided to bite the bullet and go back on Match.com. I haven't been on an OLD site since early summer, and not on Match.com for well over a year. But I figured that in the winter, I obviously won't be getting out a lot of places to meet guys, so unless I want to wait another 6 months, I might as well do it.

But here's my problem.

I'm attracted to tall guys, at least 5'10" (b/c I'm 5'8"), dark hair, and kind of boyish looking...think Ben Affleck, Ashton Kutcher. My friends call them "Abercrombie guys".

But it's quite obvious that those guys don't really find me attractive, because the kinds of guys that have been responding to my profile are more...outdoorsy, teddy bear type guys...think Jack Black, Jack Osborne.

And I'm honestly just not attracted to them. I'm trying to widen my perspective, and am responding and e-mailing guys that I would normally pass by, but I'm just not feeling it, for the most part...I just prefer more boyish looking guys than rugged manly guys.

I know that physical attraction is only a small part of dating, but what do you do when you just *can't* get past it?

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Registered: 08-09-2003
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 6:55am

Good question! You can't change how you feel inside about what "type" is attractive to you. And think of it this way: would you want a guy to select you when he prefers another "type" just because he hasn't been getting replies from the type he is really interested in? What would happen if he ended up getting an email from his "type" and then dumped you? Or vice versa.

You have to be true to yourself and your wants/needs.

That being said, if you just want a guy as a friend/companion, then you're free to date any type that is out there.

Maybe you just need to be more patient and give it more time. With online dating, sometimes people connect quickly, and sometimes it can take several months to find the right person, or even longer.

Don't fake anything, be genuine.

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