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Registered: 06-27-2005
How does this letter sound?
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Wed, 09-21-2005 - 5:50pm

okay- ya'll help me out- I have to let this guy know what's going on- and I want to give him one last shot.....I don't do well with telephone discussions, plus he's sick- so what if I sent this to him?The tone is supposed to be light and drama free? Any suggestions to put in or take out???? Thanks!

Hey Dallas-

I hope your feeling better. I know you asked me to give you a call, but I’m not sure if you would be passed out on cold medicine or not. So, I am writing you a little note. I have had a few things on my mind, and I just thought I would share them with you, if you don’t mind…. I completely understand that Saturday night your parents bailed on you for babysitting M*, and I also understand that you had a mandatory meeting yesterday and that is why you couldn’t meet for lunch, and I am totally on the same page with you about canceling lunch again today because you are sick…. What I would like to be clear on is whether or not we are on the same page as far as dating is concerned? I am all about spontaneity and flexibility, but I am also all about respect for other people’s time and their availability. I am not upset about the past few cancellations, but as I told you before, if I am supposed to be taking a hint, then let me know. Otherwise, I am left hanging out there in “huh?” land…. Does that make any sense? I enjoy spending time with you and I think you have many attractive qualities, I just wanted you to know that. I would have waited and shared this with you in person, but I don’t exactly know when the next time will be. =)
I hope your doing better and getting some rest!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 5:58pm

NO, no, no, no, no. Too much too soon, IMO.

I would let it be and let him contact you.

IF he asks you out again, then the next time you see him you can say something. Sending an email about it makes too big a deal of it. You've only gone out a couple times, right?

Sheri

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 6:00pm

ok ok ok

I guess this is my problem... Gosh- this sucks!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 6:25pm

Fill up the queue!!!

Sheri

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 7:30pm
queue??
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 7:49pm

Yes, queue ;-). Are you not familiar with that word? I guess it's vocabulary day here on the OLD board, LOL! According to dictionary.com, a queue is:

1. A line of waiting people or vehicles.
2. A long braid of hair worn hanging down the back of the neck; a pigtail.
3. A sequence of stored data or programs awaiting processing.
A data structure from which the first item that can be retrieved is the one stored earliest.

Stack 'em up, in other words (the guys you're meeting and dating, if that's not clear)!!

Sheri

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 7:56pm

I agree with Sheri.

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 8:06pm

Hi K,

Now that you have written it, Please delete it and do not send it. You are having to fill in Too many blanks with this man...if he wants to be with you, he wil make time to. Please date others and next time he calls, you Will have other plans, so you can say 'I am busy Thursday, but I am available Friday" and let him do things right. Next time is his Last strike..then move on.

"Do Nothing and Have Nothing to regret"---go write that in lipstick on your bathroom mirror so you see it each day, and Live by it!

Grab you dignity by the horns and ride it into a better future!!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 8:28pm
no offense Jennie, but you can be a little harsh
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Registered: 06-27-2005
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 8:34pm

Thank Cupcake... I appreciate your advise.

I guess I just needed to put it into words... you know. I always feel better getting out and seeing it on paper, before I do anything. Everyone's advise has been super helpful, and I really appreciate your helpful tone...

I haven't been in the dating scene for awhile, and am used to be being pursued and not having to wonder.... oh well, the pains of OLD, right?

I have not called him, and have no intention of calling him....

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 8:41pm

I'm sorry if that was too harsh.

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