How to end a first meet?

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Registered: 05-29-2003
How to end a first meet?
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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 4:32pm
How do you end a first meet if you are interested? Not interested? I'm not so good at ending these even though I prefer to end them first but usually feel quite awkward.
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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 4:40pm

If I'm interested, I will respond favorably to being asked out again...if he doesn't do so, I may go so far as to say something like, "I had a great time, I'd love to do it again some time", but I really don't like to have to do that (and as I posted to Sparkle, my experience has been that most men who are interested will ask you out again before the 1st meeting ends).

If I'm not interested, I will say "it was nice meeting you. Take care".

Sheri

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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 6:05pm
Sheri - thanks for the response! I was really more interested in knowing how you signal the end of the first meet. For example, you're having a lovely coffee (or not) and you realize that an hour or so has passed and you think it's the appropriate time to end the meeting. Do you say "Well, I really should go now" or something like that? I've noticed that when I am the one to end it I often get either a nervous or uncomfortable response from the guy like I've just rejected him. I guess I could use some help on how to end it, even when going well, not wanting to send the message that I'm just not interested.
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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 6:21pm

Oh, sorry, I misunderstood!

I'll usually say something like, "hey, it's been really nice meeting and talking to you but I have to go do " (and since I do most of my first meetings on weekend afternoons, I almost always DO have something I have to get to!). If I'm interested in him (and he's not completely clueless), he'll see from my warm and engaging manner that I'm not rejecting him, and that's his cue to ask me out again ;-).

Sheri