How far would you drive?

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How far would you drive?
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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 1:19pm

How far are you willing to drive to meet or date someone?

I just got off the phone with a guy who pretty much gave me a lecture on why it was pointless to even be looking at profiles of men that live over an hour's drive away from me. He said that proximity is the key to the success of any relationship. While he had some valid points, my answer was i live in an area where who/what I'm looking for is very limited so I need to either extend the area I'm looking in or lower my standards. Plus, why eliminate a group of guys where there could be potential for something great just because of a little driving?

So my question to you all is, how far is too far? 30 minutes, an hour, two hours, 4 hour flight?

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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 12:54pm

I love Orange County - it's cleaner than LA as a rule. However I like certain parts of the valley too like Augura Hills and Calabasas.

Wow, that is a long commute. My BF gives me a hard time (in a fun way of course) when I go to Encino (next to Sherman Oaks) to get my eye brows waxed every two weeks. He thinks that's far from where I live in the Santa Monica area, LOL.

Gosh, when I did OLD prior to my BF, I had so many guys from the OC writing me, it seemed like at least 40% - but I only went out with under a handful of them as I prefer someone closer to me.

How old are you? What is your religion? The OC is full of Christians so if you're of another faith I can see why that would be a problem.

Cheers,
Peanut

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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 1:54pm

Agoura Hills isn't really part of the valley and Calabasas is stretching it. I always thought the valley started at Topanga Canyon if you're coming from north 101.

Your BF is right - there's gotta be someone closer to ya that can do eyebrows. I'm sure you've looked. So nevermind.

Lisa

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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 2:23pm

I'm 28 and Jewish. OC has a smallish jewish community as it is, and the single jewish male community in OC is even smaller. At least online anyway. Thus, my branching out into LA. I'm looking at men between 28-40. In OC, it's about the same 40 men online that fall into that category. And that's without any of the "requirements" that I'm looking for. When I expand my search into LA- actually I use 40 miles from my zipcode- there's hundreds.

I've thought about moving to LA. But sometimes LA is a bit much for me. Plus, it will be easier for me to find my first job out of law school in OC, rather than in LA where I'm not only competing with graduates from the 3 OC law schools, but also all of the LA schools.

Hey I know how hard it is to find a good eyebrow girl, so I understand your commute. :)

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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 3:38pm

Good to know your open minded about the age range, I'm sure the 40 year olds love you, LOL.

Funny about the eyebrows. Actually I've been going to her for 5 years; I'm one of those loyal clients and if you're good your clients will commute to you. I've also had the same nail lady for 10 years although I'm trying not to go to the valley every week now that I have a BF in Torrance and it's been hard on my conscience, guess I'm just very loyal - how I'm built although I'm sure they understand, that's just the business.

Yes, LA has more diversity - I'm not Jewish but half my BF's have been. All my Jewish GF's complain they can't find a Jewish guy and I always meet them although my current BF is spiritual but not religious (same as me).

LA is very competitive for lawyers too; it's nuts. However that degree is something you can use even if you decide the law isn't for you once you get into it. I think I read a statistic somewhere that lawyers had a 60% turnover the first year.

Lisa,

I'm pretty sure Augora Hills and Calabasa is part of the San Fernando Valley, now you have my curiosity (have to look it up later). They say it's not like the valley because you get the malibu breeze (as it's just 20 minutes over Topanga and your in Malibu). But technically I think it may be but perhaps I'm wrong. That's one of the reasons I like it, very beautiful mountains and a nice breeze.

Cheers,
SP

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Fri, 02-25-2005 - 1:49am
I actually think that ladies are more willing to travel than guys. I know a guy who is not willing to drive just one hour, once a month to see me.
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Fri, 02-25-2005 - 5:49am

If you want someone who shares your religion, then there's really only one place to be looking- and it's not via OLD. It's at the church. Or synagogue, if I remember correctly. :)

After all, lots of guys can SAY they are practicing; but by going to services you can see who's actually doing it and who's just talking.

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Fri, 02-25-2005 - 5:30pm
What if you want to date/marry someone who shares your religious background but you never attend religious services? I would like to marry someone whose religious background is the same as mine; however, I practice my beliefs as they suit me - in a way that I find appropriate. Religious services mean nothing to me and I refuse to go. There are OLD services that target specific religions.

 

 

 

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Fri, 02-25-2005 - 5:38pm

If your Jewish -JDATE is the best. If your Christian I believe they have a Christian Singles site as well. Most of those sites ask how often you attend services i.e. only on holidays, rarely or weekly, never - FYI.

Cheers,
SP

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Fri, 02-25-2005 - 8:05pm

I'm actually going to services tonight. But the last time I went, I was the youngest person there. The youngest guy I think was 65-70.

Just a tad out of my age range. ;)

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Thu, 03-03-2005 - 1:55am
Now that's a question that I'm trying to decide. I posted a similar question about my guy in Cali. That's long distance to me, especially since I don't know how to explain to others why I would randomly fly to California. I think if he really, really was husband potential, I would do it. I'm not sure yet. He's not seeing the big deal, since he's mr. moneybags, but I surely am not. What's really funny is that I wouldn't date someone an hour's drive away!!! That doesn't make any sense. The problem is that it's too close not to see each other, but it's far enough to be a pain in the butt! I don't know, I'm confused. Don't listen to me. I'm the fool that's not taking into account that I'll have to fly 6 hours to see guy repeatedly if a realtionship is going to work out. I guess if I had any advise, I would gauge each mile, but the potential boyfriend status. A fling? An hour's fine. A husband, several thousand miles are fine. But a boyfriend? He better live 30 minutes or less. Does that make sense or am I crazy??? LOL Take care.

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