How to get someone to meet in real life

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
How to get someone to meet in real life
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Mon, 01-03-2011 - 2:11pm

So I have just signed up for OLD and not having much success so far in even getting guys to be at all interested.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 01-14-2011 - 9:24pm

Actually I have taken martial arts.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Fri, 01-14-2011 - 11:56am

Why to women fail to take martial arts?

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Registered: 01-14-2011
Fri, 01-14-2011 - 3:12am
get me on skype. johnstring2 is my user name on there ;-)
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2007
Tue, 01-11-2011 - 9:40pm

Hi musiclover.

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Registered: 07-21-2008
Mon, 01-10-2011 - 11:54pm

I don't necessarily believe in long drawn out email exchanges, but w/in 3 emails seems a little extreme, depends too on how far apart they are spaced.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 01-09-2011 - 1:26pm

I was lurking to get advice but I wasn't actually doing OLD myself.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2010
Sun, 01-09-2011 - 11:30am

I don’t think not hearing from someone you haven’t even met for 2 days indicates lack of interest.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 01-06-2011 - 10:45am

Well after agreeing to exchange our real email addresses (and his has his real name in it) so I figured we were at least progressing a little, then I haven't heard from him in 2 days, so I guess he's losing interest.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2006
Thu, 01-06-2011 - 12:20am

My BF and I wrote back and forth, lengthy emails, seven or eight times before he asked to meet. Had he not asked me when he did, I was getting ready to do so myself. He told me later, after we were a couple, that he had been really afraid I would say no.

I'd say that the vast majority of the time I have actually met someone from online they asked me out fairly quickly (ort I did). I'm glad I never stuck to any arbitrary rules about it though. Every person is a little different. One person said it right above though, you really can't let yourself get emotionally invested with someone you haven't met yet.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Tue, 01-04-2011 - 8:19pm
musiclover12 wrote:

At the other extreme, I had a couple of guys who after maybe 1 email were asking for my phone number.

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