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| Mon, 06-12-2006 - 7:27pm |
Okay, so I have made it to a _second_ meet and greet. And the guy is talking about dating. But I like him a lot less after meeting than before. This is why:
1. We met for lunch at a soup and sandwich place where you place your order at the counter and then find a table. I had sort of expected him to wait for me to order and to start eating, but although I was on time he had ordered and picked up his own food. He did not offer to get my order (much less pay for it.) I was perfectly okay with ordering and paying for my own food, but I thought it would have been nice of him to offer.
2. While we were sitting at the table, he accidentally knocked over the fruit salad I had picked as a "side" for my sandwich. It was a small fruit salad and I'd eaten about half of it, but I was still eating from it! Anyway, he apologized, but he didn't offer to replace it. (Is it me or is this a little odd? If I spill your food so you can't eat it, shouldn't I offer to get you some more?)
3. Most of the conversation turned on his hassles with his ex-wife and visitation/custody of their kid. I realize that he is going through some tough times, but I got tired of listening to it. I tried to change the subject, but we kept coming back to it.
4. His match picture is at least four years old. His hair is streaked with gray, his face is much more lined. I don't really care that he looks older, I care that he is not honest about posting a current picture.
So, am I being picky or are these all legitimate things to have trouble with?
Elsa

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Hi Elsa,
Just thought I'd chime in with my 2 cents on this...this guy is socially challenged and in my experience this isn't likely to change. It's usually these types who are great in the emails & IM's and which is why, as Sheri said, the email/IM connections rarely pan out into real life chemistry.
Forget about the pre-meeting chemistry because it's the real life stuff that matters.
Cheers,
Sheri,
Well, I am not going to weep if I don't hear from him, but depending on how he approaches me (if he does) I may give him a second chance. Talking to you guys helps me see that I don't feel sure that this was characteristc behavior. Prob I am wrong, but I need to see for myself.
Elsa
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