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How long after a divorce ......
| Tue, 02-14-2006 - 7:24am |
Hello,
I'm new to this site.
I have a question.
How long should a person wait after a divorce to start dating?
I was with my ex for 7 years...was married to him 1yr and 4months within the 7 years.
I don't remember ever really dating him.I think that we started out just hanging out as friends and it was then that I developed a crush.
Anyways...the divorce was finalized this past Dec. It's now Feb.Is there a mourning period that divorce people go through before dating again?Also I'm a very shy person and I wouldn't know the first thing about 'dating'.I do enjoy e-mailing people alot.I'm on 4 'dating' sites BUT I really only want to e-mail BUT since I've been on these sites...I have gotten 3 replies from guys.2 gave me their cell numbers to call them and one wanted to meet me for coffee.I feel that this is all too soon!!
I need advice please.
I'm new to this site.
I have a question.
How long should a person wait after a divorce to start dating?
I was with my ex for 7 years...was married to him 1yr and 4months within the 7 years.
I don't remember ever really dating him.I think that we started out just hanging out as friends and it was then that I developed a crush.
Anyways...the divorce was finalized this past Dec. It's now Feb.Is there a mourning period that divorce people go through before dating again?Also I'm a very shy person and I wouldn't know the first thing about 'dating'.I do enjoy e-mailing people alot.I'm on 4 'dating' sites BUT I really only want to e-mail BUT since I've been on these sites...I have gotten 3 replies from guys.2 gave me their cell numbers to call them and one wanted to meet me for coffee.I feel that this is all too soon!!
I need advice please.

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If you don't feel comfortable, don't put your profile on dating sites. If you are just wanting to talk with someone online, go into a local chatroom. If you happen to hit it off with someone, there is no harm in meeting in a public place during the day to have coffee. Don't push yourself to get back out there if you are not ready.
From someone who was in your shoes (married) for about the same length of time...
*You* have to feel comfortable with the "when". Everyone is different, and the beauty of online dating is that you can control the level and frequency of interaction - and it is definitely more of an art than a science.
I personally fell out of love with my husband many years before the separation, so for me, getting (slowly) back into the game was a very positive and fun re-acquaintenace with dating.
Don't rush anything. Have fun with every experience (date). You *will* invest time with persons who will ultimately not be right for you. It was five years and many 'lessons learned' before I found someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Part luck, part alot of work!
Best to you,
RedRiderRR
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