How long after a meet up do you.....

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Registered: 10-17-2004
How long after a meet up do you.....
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Wed, 05-04-2005 - 9:15pm

wait to receive a phone call before you figure he's not going to call.

Say you have a seemingly good meet up....lots of conversation, laughter and common interests. He gives you a big hug goodbye. He emails you when he gets home to thank you and says, "Let's keep in touch (if you want) and get together again some time!"

What do you think?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 9:26pm

One question before I try to answer: did you respond to his email and if so, what did you say?

Sheri

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Registered: 10-17-2004
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 6:25am

I just mentioned that I had a great time, too. I told him that he seems like a lot of fun and has a great sense of humor. I told him to call me anytime.

That's about it....

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 8:05am
At this stage you don't wait -- you stay active and keep building your pool of prospective dates. Try to keep 2 or more going in the early stages (email) at all times. This severely lessens how much you think about any one prospect.
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Registered: 08-07-2003
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 9:56am

In that case, I think that if you do not hear back from him within a couple of days, the odds of him ever calling drop precipitously.

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 10:15am

Just curious to know if he called yet?

Jodie

 

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 10:16am

In my experience, anytime I've actually had to wonder "will he call", he either never ends up calling, or when he does, I've all but forgotten about him.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 11:10am

Ok, so if his initial email *was* a "feeler" to feel out whether you were interested in him, he now has no doubt that you are.

A couple thoughts on how to handle this:

1. I always assume that the end of the date is the last time I will hear from any particular guy early on in the dating process, no matter WHAT he says. Expect nothing, and you won't be disappointed. IF he calls, it's gravy.

2. My experience has been that guys who are interested will call for a 2nd date within a day or two, max, of the 1st date (or even ask me out again for a specific date while we're still on the 1st one).

I'd write him off in your head and move on...send out 10 new winks today!

Sheri

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 11:31am

I've always struggled with this area in OLD and have come to the conclusion where there is just no positive way to tell if anyone is interested (from a guy's perspective) other than just asking them if they'd like to go out again. Period.


And I do subscribe to the school of thought made popular on askmen that you figure out their true intentions by kissing at the end of the first date.

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 11:44am

Are you talking about the end of the first "date" or first "meeting"?

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 12:19pm

The kiss isn't necessarily a good indicator - my very first OLD experience involved a kiss at the end of the meeting, and he didn't call me again.

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