How many men have you met from OLD?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
How many men have you met from OLD?
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Fri, 03-23-2007 - 10:37pm

I was just sitting here trying to determine how many guys I've met in person from OLD, since this month is the 2 year anniversary of my first sign up...

So lets see...

Jason-1 date, I really should have given him more of a chance, I think I might've liked him

Carey-1 date, he was just into hooking up, I should've realized that by the way he talked

Andy-went out for about 2 months, I called it dating, he didn't...we're now really good friends, b/c he thinks he might be gay (yeah, my luck)

Jonah-1 date, I really thought he was a good guy, and we seemed to click, but he never called again after the first date

Jerry-1 date, at the end of which he confided in me that he had just gotten out of prison 6 months before, serving 6 years for rape (yeah, again, my luck)

Chris1-1 date, too good-old-boy for me...he was almost kind of...slow...

Chris2-1 date, about 6'3" and 140 lbs, painful to look at, and smelled funny

Hector-1 date, thought he would be a sexy latin lover, but I couldn't understand a word he said because of his thick accent

Jared-2 dates, the most negative man in the entire world...he hated EVERYTHING, and used the F-word to describe his hatred in every other sentence

Chad-3 dates, he was WAY moody, and only liked to communicate via IM...and when I found out he had slept with 130+ girls, I politely backed away from that trainwreck

Marcus-4 dates, the 21 year old baby I met when I was 28...he was cool, but obviously not looking for anything committed

Jason-went out for about a month or so, there was physical chemistry, and friendship chemistry, but it wasn't connecting as romantic chemistry...we're now really great friends

Steve-1 date, he was bi-sexual, but should have been more honest with himself, because he was NOT into women...nuff said

Christopher-1 date, he was psychoanalyzing me deeply in the middle of Bob Evans, trying to delve deeper into my history of issues with my mother

Eddie-went out for a month, thought it was really going to be something, and he got spooked and ghosted on me over Christmas weekend

And ya know? I know there were a few others, but I'm drawing a blank! LOL And those were only the ones that progressed to meeting...there had to be at least 3 times that many that I've e-mailed with/talked to on the phone, that just ghosted before the meeting stage...

So I'm guessing about 18 meets and probably at least 50 other e-mail/phone contacts, in exactly two years...and during that time, there were 4 guys from non-OLD, and a period of about 4 months where I didn't go out with or talk to anybody...

So is it any wonder that I'm burned out before I even begin again??? How many girls go out with 22+ guys in less than 24 months???

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 1:15am

Geez Girl, I bet!

OK, I'll go.

With Match...

C-One date--online photo was good, body very unproportional in person and he had nothing to say. I told him I had to go to the bathroom and snuck out the front door (I know I know)

A-One date, he was very nice, just too preppy for me. No chemistry for me.

A-One date. He liked me, I noticed he didn't really look like his pics and was kind of dorky in person

K-2 months. He was a hottie, too. Athletic, hiked the Appalachian Trail, a paraptrooping/athletic/hippie with a tongue ring (and a piercing somewhere else but I'm not gonna say where : )) He was non-committal and broke it off after I told him I was falling for him. We took a great trip to teh beach together. He called me his girlfriend.

R-Tomorrow will be date number 3. I like this one. He's a good kisser, too. On date number two, I made it my mission to find out. We'll see...Keep your fingers crossed : )

That's all. I am pretty weird about who I will meet. If I get a weird vibe, I just don't meet up.

Gal Blondie

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 9:28am

Wow! I'm impressed you remember all the names (or most of them). I've done OLD off and on for maybe 5 years and met probably the same-ish number you have but remember hardly any of them specifically!

Well, good luck this go round. You never know when it can happen. Like I said, I've been doing it for almost 5 years and not many ever went past 1-2 dates but I MIGHT have found a good one but still definitely doing the wait and see thing for now. Takes a lot of patience and time but you never know and I think that's why we all keep doing it!

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Registered: 01-10-2004
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 11:23am
I've been doing OLD off and on for probably about 5 years and I've only met one guy in person. We met at a coffee shop, had another short date at a local brewery and then a longer date (dinner and a movie). We seemed like a good match on paper and got along well enough, but it kinda fizzled out after the 3rd time we went out and we both "ghosted" soon after that.
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Registered: 03-22-2007
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 11:44am

I've been doing OLD for about 3 months. On Eharmony, and My Space if you count that. So here's my guys.

D-Met on MySpace. Went out for 2 months. Broke up with him after I found out that he was not being responsible for his kids and had his license taken away for not paying child support. What a loser.

G-Met on Eharmony. 2 dates. Too reserved for me. I ghosted.

C-Met on Eharmony. So far 2 dates. Great on paper but I don't feel a connection. I will give it at least another date. BTW he just e-mailed me and said he thought things were going good. I haven't responded yet. I will and I will be honest. We'll see how he takes it.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 4:23pm

Wow.

Now I really feel pathetic! LOL

I somehow expected that lots of people on this board would have higher numbers, like me...just because I know that sometimes there's a Challenge to "meet 3 people this week!" kind of thing.

I'm pretty tired of this, but there's really no other way for me to meet people, since work is out of the question, and I don't really have many friends here to go out with (and I'm not really into extracurricular activities to meet guys/friends)...

I just know that I'm getting poorer and poorer by the minute! LOL

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 6:41pm

Oh, heck, 22 guys in 2 years is NOTHING, LOL!!! I've lost track of how many guys I've met in person but it has to be well over 100, since I've been doing it on and off for about 8 years now. Hope springs eternal, ha!

I don't do any of the pay sites any more though--as I told a friend recently, why pay to meet the same flakes I can meet for free on CL ;-)? In other words, the theory that you'll meet a better class of guy on the pay sites because you have to pay didn't hold water in my experience.

Sheri

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Registered: 01-21-2005
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 8:38pm

Yeah, 22 guys in 24 months is impressive, but I think I actually have you beat. I met 24 me online and 1 in person in a span of just 8 months. I'd say about 70% of them I only went out with once, but there was a good share of them I dated 3 or more times. I'd list them all out (I actually kept a list of all of their names so I wouldn't forget), but it's just too long.

Oh, and I also agree with Sheri about the paid versus free sites. I never had any better experience with the paid sites.

Anyway, don't let it get you down, you'll find someone good! I eventually did meet my current bf online, which is why I stopped the madness, and we've been together for 9 months now, so all the expense and effort was definitely worth it. :)

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Registered: 10-01-2006
Sun, 03-25-2007 - 8:54pm

My turn:

Construction Guy - First on-line date. Hot. Amazing chemistry. Dated for a few months. Not at all compatible with me.

Love of my Life Guy - Second on-line date. Charming, wonderful, still love him (I think). Lucky to have found him through OLD. He's why I still have hope OLD can work!! We dated for 3.5 years, with a few break-ups interspersed throughtout. The following were during one of the longer break-ups.

Buddhist Guy - One date. Totally thought we would hit it off. Lots of compatibility on paper. No chemistry in person. I think he was shorter than me.

Hungarian Guy - One date. Totally thought we would hit it off. Loved the accent. Were not really compatible.

Photographer Guy - One date. Unbelievable chemistry. No compatibility. Considered something casual, but I just can't handle that without experiencing emotional attachment. He was shorter than me, but very cute.

And now, after my final break-up with LOML Guy:

Librarian Guy - One date. Got along great on the phone. No chemistry in person. He looked quite a bit older than his photos.

Sales Guy - Two dates. Back to back last week. Great physical chemistry, but no compatibility. Shorter than me, kind of a wacko, but super-cute!

Sales Guy 2 - One date. Today. He was maybe 4 inches shorter than me?!?! But, indicated my same height in his profile. Uggh. Coffee was good though. :)

Three more coming up soon . . . wish me luck!!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 03-25-2007 - 9:05pm
I would say in the year & 1/2 I have been OLD, I have met 15 guys in real life.

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Sun, 03-25-2007 - 11:02pm

wow, you've sure met a lot shorter than you! How do you do that?

I tried meeting one guy who was shorter than me and I hate to say it but it was an automatic deal breaker. I tried but it just felt awkward. Luckily, at 5'6" I'm not incredibly tall myself so this doesn't pose too much of an issue for me.

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