How to not be bitter.........
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| Sun, 03-06-2005 - 10:01am |
I am and I know it. You can tell in my posts I'm sure. I'm sorry for raining on ya'lls parade sometimes and for not having a happy-go-lucky attitude regarding dating. I'm in a rut regarding men. Every time I've believed in a boyfriend and thought it would go the long haul, it didn't. Every time I heard "I love you", I thought he meant it. Alas, I am alone still and pissed off....lol. I meant everything I said and did in all my relationships. Why did they not evolve into more? I know I'm the common denominator so there is that work I need to do. I had a counselor back in Minnesota who helped me fix my picker outer - he was great. And now that it's fixed (?) I'm scared to try it out for fear of getting stomped on again.
How do YOU go on? I'm sure I'm not the only one who has a broken heart or spirit from so many crappy relationships. I used to wake up every morning with a "bring it on" attitude. I haven't felt that way in about two years. Do I need drugs? How do you get excited about life again?
Lisa

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You must have a mailbox filled with winks...you are pretty in that all american way...and smart too. The series 7 is no cake walk. I have a 6.
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What's up with the junk in the trunk?
Hi!
You are insane!
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3. If you'd posted your profile text Match also lets you do a full text search which sometimes narrows things down.
WGB1264 is my profile on Match.
Thanks for sharing!
cheese is still in Switzerland. I am not talking to him and don't know anything about him. We have mutual friends here and I know they keep in-touch but it's sort of taboo to talk about him with me. I really don't care that much about him anymore. Just when I feel down (not often) that I reminisce.
Irina
Edited 3/6/2005 4:39 pm ET ET by ivos2004
Its all about loving who you are. Then the rest will follow. There will still be times you feel bitter but it won't be a part of your life ...
I have been single for 3.5 years now. And while the first year I needed to deal with alot of my issues so I wasn't able to be in a relationship... it still feels like forever since Ive had a steady guy. Its difficult and challenging to be open to new people when all you've gotten is crude from guys... But the silver lining is not only will you be a better person for being able to stand on your own two feet... but also, you will appreciate that person that walks into your life one day, sooo much more.
If you think about it lisa, you are a great person - not only for your own unique qualities but also, there were prolly times you could've settled just to have a relationship (alot of ppl do)... but you haven't. that takes a great person in itself.
Hopefully you will find your "zen" in being single. It took me a longggg time for that one. Finally, im soooo happy with me and my life. Sure I'd love to have a steady boyfriend, but I'm truly just happy being with me.
LG I wish I had gotten this post a long time ag o because i realized this beginning of last year. Since then, Ive dated completely opposite of whta I was doing. I realized "hey i keep getting theese jerks, what am i doing wrong?". So I changed who I dated. At first, it was fustrating because I wasn't attracted to these guys bc they were opposite of what I had dated before (the good looking, into themselves guys who were stuck up)... I was now dating nice guys (who seemed boring to me) who weren't so "hot" physically - but then it started to work. I found how much happier i was dating guys who treated me like I should and were respectful. And hey they weren't tha tboring afterall. But its almost like re-programming your brain... good advice and I hope others REALLY get what you are saying.
Currently, I'm dating a guy who I probably wouldn't have picked to stay with a year ago, but because of my new dating style - I'm still dating him over a month later. and as I get to know him, I really see what a great person he is. Hes got his issues but hes dealt w/ alot of them and I admire that in anyone. Anyone who can face their demons is a great person.
Anyways TTFN
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