How Often Do You Want Contact?

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Registered: 08-14-2006
How Often Do You Want Contact?
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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 5:46am

Maybe it's just me, but I don't want or need contact every day from a new acquaintence that I meet online. The two men that I met recently want to call me every day, and for me, that isn't working - it makes me feels smothered. I am the kind of person who needs some time to myself. When I talk on the phone with them, both want to talk for several hours at a time and I'm just not into talking on the phone that much.

I'm just wondering how the rest of you feel....perhaps it's all relative and a personal choice.

I have heard from a few gals at work who are single that they feel neglected if they don't hear from a guy every day.

What's your preferences?

Callie

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Registered: 02-02-2005
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 12:31am

when it's someone i dont know well, as in i just met them somewhere or online, i dont want to talk to them everyday...in fact, i'd rather just make plans on the phone, then say, great see you there and not talk to them again until i see them

now if i'm into them...and there's physical, sexual attraction...well then yeah I wouldnt mind if they called everyday (:

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 1:25pm

At the beginning, a guy who calls too much seems needy to me. I'm not much of a phone person, either, so it can get annoying. Once or twice a week is plenty during the first phases.

Later, if we've been dating awhile, at least a daily e-mail or check-in call is great -- but don't keep me on the phone for more than 15 minutes most nights or I go nuts. I'd much rather see him in person than talk on the phone for hours.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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