That is each person's personal decision. Only they can decide what is comfortable or not to them. I think it depends on how good looking the guy is. You might except someone who either doesn't meet or exceeds your age limits if he was a real hottie. As a warning I think by coming up with all these standards, age limits, so and so forth can put a person in a box by themselves. You have to have standards but just don't have so many that you exclude what may be a good catch.
hmm...that's a good question. For me personally, age doesn't matter too much. If I am attracted to someone that much older than me, then I'm willing to explore that relationship. In fact, (I'm 26), I find that I'm much more attracted to men that are 5-10 or so years older than me, and RARELY attracted to anyone younger.
I think it's mostly about matching what your priorities are and what you're looking for in a relationship. I find a lot of younger guys aren't into the long term relationships, so obviously I have more in common with older guys.
I would never end (or not pursue) things with a man just because of their age. But, it all comes down to who you're attracted too :)
LOL thats true however when you do get around to that rolling around in bed situation it does change.
I was wildly attracted about a year after my divorce to this guy that had a boat next to a friends boat, we would flirt and he was mid 50's I was 27. Anyhow, he was hot and when my friend started getting tired he said he would take me home because we were all having fun, we went back to his boat and we started kissing and all that ran through my head was he was only like 2 years younger than my dad. INSTANTLY turned me off. LOL
Yup he had to take me home not too soon after that. Poor guy probably thought he was getting lucky.
I have always had a problem about older men. As previous posters have said, it all depends on what attracts you and what does not. For me, wrinkles and gray hair on a man is NOT a turn-on. Granted, I have some gray myself, but keep it colored and I have almost no wrinkles for a 45 yr. old. Ideally, I want them right about my own age or slightly younger. I did have a thing several years ago for a guy who was 10 yrs. younger than me. It didn't work out, but I was very attracted to him. Later I realized that maybe someone within 5 yrs. either way was a more realistic expectation.
I've kind of had to dig my heels in a bit about this since I have had some church friends (who are quite a bit older than myself) want to fix me up with men they know and ALL of these men have been 10-15 yrs. older than me. I'm just not interested in some man who probably looks a lot older than myself. Even though I know these people mean well, I just can't bring myself to even consider the idea. I finally told another friend of mine (who is closer to my own age) that if older men were the only ones I could get dates with (or interest from), then I would just stay dateless and single the rest of my life. I'm just not willing to compromise on that one issue.
>For me, wrinkles and gray hair on a man is NOT a turn-on >I'm just not interested in some man who probably looks a >lot older than myself.
So you are saying it has NOTHING to do with age and EVERYTHING to do with looks? Would you date a man who was 85 but looked like he was 40? Someone once said: "Grey hair is great, ask anyone who is bald"
I remember going to a pizzeria with my cousins who were regulars there. I had never been there before but I recognised the chef and we started chatting. My cousins later asked me where I knew him from and I told them he was in the same class as me at school. They couldn't believe it. They thought this man was in his mid 40's! His age--27.
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That is each person's personal decision. Only they can decide what is comfortable or not to them. I think it depends on how good looking the guy is. You might except someone who either doesn't meet or exceeds your age limits if he was a real hottie. As a warning I think by coming up with all these standards, age limits, so and so forth can put a person in a box by themselves. You have to have standards but just don't have so many that you exclude what may be a good catch.
R.I.
I'm 36 and my range was typically 33-46.
hmm...that's a good question. For me personally, age doesn't matter too much. If I am attracted to someone that much older than me, then I'm willing to explore that relationship. In fact, (I'm 26), I find that I'm much more attracted to men that are 5-10 or so years older than me, and RARELY attracted to anyone younger.
I think it's mostly about matching what your priorities are and what you're looking for in a relationship. I find a lot of younger guys aren't into the long term relationships, so obviously I have more in common with older guys.
I would never end (or not pursue) things with a man just because of their age. But, it all comes down to who you're attracted too :)
Alyssa
Edited 11/12/2005 7:57 am ET by sniffle_sally
LOL thats true however when you do get around to that rolling around in bed situation it does change.
I was wildly attracted about a year after my divorce to this guy that had a boat next to a friends boat, we would flirt and he was mid 50's I was 27. Anyhow, he was hot and when my friend started getting tired he said he would take me home because we were all having fun, we went back to his boat and we started kissing and all that ran through my head was he was only like 2 years younger than my dad. INSTANTLY turned me off. LOL
Yup he had to take me home not too soon after that. Poor guy probably thought he was getting lucky.
"all that ran through my head was he was only like 2 years younger than my dad. INSTANTLY turned me off. LOL
Yup he had to take me home not too soon after that. Poor guy probably thought he was getting lucky."
ROFL!!
If it turns into an Oedipal thing....definite problem. Otherwise, if attracted & still have enough in common, why not??
MK
I have always had a problem about older men. As previous posters have said, it all depends on what attracts you and what does not. For me, wrinkles and gray hair on a man is NOT a turn-on. Granted, I have some gray myself, but keep it colored and I have almost no wrinkles for a 45 yr. old. Ideally, I want them right about my own age or slightly younger. I did have a thing several years ago for a guy who was 10 yrs. younger than me. It didn't work out, but I was very attracted to him. Later I realized that maybe someone within 5 yrs. either way was a more realistic expectation.
I've kind of had to dig my heels in a bit about this since I have had some church friends (who are quite a bit older than myself) want to fix me up with men they know and ALL of these men have been 10-15 yrs. older than me. I'm just not interested in some man who probably looks a lot older than myself. Even though I know these people mean well, I just can't bring myself to even consider the idea. I finally told another friend of mine (who is closer to my own age) that if older men were the only ones I could get dates with (or interest from), then I would just stay dateless and single the rest of my life. I'm just not willing to compromise on that one issue.
>For me, wrinkles and gray hair on a man is NOT a turn-on
>I'm just not interested in some man who probably looks a
>lot older than myself.
So you are saying it has NOTHING to do with age and EVERYTHING to do with looks? Would you date a man who was 85 but looked like he was 40? Someone once said: "Grey hair is great, ask anyone who is bald"
I remember going to a pizzeria with my cousins who were regulars there. I had never been there before but I recognised the chef and we started chatting. My cousins later asked me where I knew him from and I told them he was in the same class as me at school. They couldn't believe it. They thought this man was in his mid 40's! His age--27.
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