Because I was attracted and we had plenty in common until we kissed and then it grossed me out that he was not much younger than my dad so just totally turned off that for me.
I doubt I could do it again. I won't go over 10 years.
It is looks AND age that figure in to my repulsion of men much older than myself. I've run into very few men who were several years older than myself who did not look every bit their age plus some. So, no, a guy even 10 years older than me would be a no go. If I can't find someone 50 or younger to date, I am not likely to date at all. Maybe that isn't a huge factor for some people, but I know it is for me.
For me, I prefer no more than 9-10 years age difference, but if I met someone a year or two outside that, and I was attracted to him, I wouldn't ix-nay on the ating-day just because of his age.
So you're suggesting that if there is no attraction (as is the case with most older men I've met) that I should go out with them ANYWAY? If I was with a guy, I would HAVE to have some physical attraction for them or I wouldn't be with them to begin with.
Actually no, that's not what I said at all. I just wondered if you met someone who you were attracted to and you settled down with them and they aged (as you and everyone else in the world will do with time), would you feel repulsed when you looked at this person whom you love? I guess the bottom line here Mitsy is I find the word repulsion offensive
If there was attraction to BEGIN with and I was per chance, married to the guy and we both grew old together, then no, that would not be a turn-off. We'd be on the same page, hopefully on looks, attraction, etc. However, it's quite different when you are meeting someone for the first time or going out on a date. And, no, repulsion is not too strong a word if the thought of hugging or kissing a guy turns your stomach. I can't think of any nicer way to put it.
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Because I was attracted and we had plenty in common until we kissed and then it grossed me out that he was not much younger than my dad so just totally turned off that for me.
I doubt I could do it again. I won't go over 10 years.
Edited 11/13/2005 2:55 pm ET by mitsy2
I'm wondering Mitsy, if you meet someone who fits what you are looking for and you decide to share your life with him, what happens in the future?
For me, I prefer no more than 9-10 years age difference, but if I met someone a year or two outside that, and I was attracted to him, I wouldn't ix-nay on the ating-day just because of his age.
Actually no, that's not what I said at all. I just wondered if you met someone who you were attracted to and you settled down with them and they aged (as you and everyone else in the world will do with time), would you feel repulsed when you looked at this person whom you love? I guess the bottom line here Mitsy is I find the word repulsion offensive
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