How to proceed?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-05-2006
How to proceed?
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Mon, 08-24-2009 - 5:10pm

Hello All,


It's been awhile since I've posted and I hope everyone is well.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-09-2008
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 6:15pm

I dont think you can say he disappeared to be honest. I mean ppl are busy and have tons on their plates these days. I go to wrok 40 hrs a week and to school for another 10 and another 8 worth of reading and homework, I wouldnt always be able to respond to emails right away either.



iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2009
Wed, 08-26-2009 - 12:49pm
Communication is tricking when it involves only emailing. You have to go through the trouble to get on a computer (or cell phone internet for some) and have the time to actually respond to what people have written you. He could have just been busy that week and had a hard time getting online. Maybe it will change up next week but you won't know until it happens. Or he could be blowing you off. But still, you won't know until some more time passes by.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2008
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 5:33pm

Sounds to me like he is one of those guys who like the email part, and don't want to move ahead. I had one guy last summer who sent off these novels worth of emails, all deep and profound. It seemed sort of interesting at first, so I played along. He didn't have a picture posted, but sent one along later. I still don't get his need for privacy.

He made an initial phone call, it was OK, he liked talking about himself (heard lots about his upcoming colonoscopy...). Then he would call, leave a message for me to call back, then never pick up the phone. Then he went silent for over a week. Left a message, again didn't respond, so I gave up. Never heard from him again.

Maybe he got it all out of his system in the emails!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-05-2006
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 9:27pm

You may very well be right about him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2008
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 9:55pm

It does seem to happen with some OLD guys...they like the pursuit, but not the reality.

Or maybe they're married and just fooling around, so to speak.

But like you said, it does get old...why waste your time with someone who is just kind of jerking you around? After all, you are there to pursue a relationship and he does not appear to be doing so.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2003
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 11:32am

My guess: the photos are fake and once he sent them he realized that you will never meet.

sooooobig