How should I respond?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2003
How should I respond?
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 5:26pm

I just got a message from someone asking why I haven't responded to his emails.


As I've mentioned, until recently I wasn't a paying member. On the site I used that meant not being able to read emails - or even see who wrote them.


A few days ago I ponied up the cash and went through 91

 

 

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-21-2005 - 5:41pm

Personally, I wouldn't answer this email either...but if you choose to, then block him, because he almost certainly WILL try to argue with you!

Sheri

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 02-21-2005 - 5:57pm
If I get the second email, usually I respond back with something about us not being a match and hope they get the message. You might just say that you just became a paying member so couldn't answer the first one but that you don't think that you are a match so buh-bye.

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Mon, 02-21-2005 - 6:22pm

>>Do I just write, "Sorry, we're not a match?"<<

Exactly. You can then block him or not if you want. I wouldn't bother unless he starts trying to argue, in which case you should block him.

Of course, if you'd have answered his email the first time- aw, never mind. :)

But yes, if you feel the need, then just a one-liner "Sorry, we're not a match" is a good plan. You certainly don't owe him an explanation of how you weren't a paying member, yadda yadda yadda.

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Mon, 02-21-2005 - 6:43pm

I would keep it simple and to the point as you said with something like we're not a match. I don't think you owe him any other explanations.

I never understand why guys who don't fit our search criteria even email us! It's like they haven't even bothered to read our profile at all! I know many don't read the profiles, but that would bring down their rejection rate, I would think, if they'd take a few minutes to read and not go by just a picture or two!

Also, what about the guys who are 10 or more years older than your criteria and write saying, "but I look much younger than my age" - yeah that changes my mind!!!

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Mon, 02-21-2005 - 6:52pm
"Yes I did get your email. I haven't been able to stop laughing long enough to type. Give me another couple of days and I'll get back to you."
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Mon, 02-21-2005 - 7:04pm

I went with "Sorry, but I don't feel that we're a match."


I then blocked him. He might not have chosen to respond but I decided to take preemptive action just in case.

 

 

 

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Mon, 02-21-2005 - 8:29pm

...you never like my suggestions.