How soon to leave it until meeting in person?

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Registered: 07-07-2011
How soon to leave it until meeting in person?
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Fri, 07-22-2011 - 10:20am

I joined up to a free dating site two weeks ago & receiving a lot of emails, I am in contact with a couple of guys who reply back promptly. Problem I have though is most of these men want to meet quite soon. Obviously I have no intention of joing a dating site to spend 6 months on end exchanging emails & chatting on msn.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sat, 07-23-2011 - 8:03am

According to The Rules for Online Dating, a man should ask to meet you within 3 emails. They advise you to move on if he doesn't. I think that's a little harsh myself. But, I also think three weeks of emailing is a lot. If you're interested in the guy, why wait three weeks to meet? I think most people who have done OLD for a while will tell you it's far better to meet sooner rather than later: that way you don't build up an unrealistic picture/fantasy of the person.

But, I also don't like it when a guy emails me for the first time asking for my number or to meet.

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Registered: 07-07-2011
Tue, 07-26-2011 - 8:48am

Hi all, on sunday afternoon I met a guy from dating site that I'd been chatting to for about a month he lives 20miles from me neither of us drive so he had to get train to meet me. I always ask the guys to meet in my home town on a first meeting as I feel more comfortable. We got on well like we had been when exchanging emails & talking on msn. The date went on for 4hours in total as even if I don't like the men I date I am never rude & wait for a call so I can run away. Only downfall I have is that he isn't as good looking in person as his photographs I can't see myself fancying him but would be willing to go on a second date to make sure of my feelings. I had to laugh last night when we spoke on msn because he said he was checking me out but was baffled more by my eyes because he wasn't sure if they were silver or blueish. I fell off the chair laughing he needs to get strong lens in his glasses because my eyes are blue. I made a joke of saying good job we didn't stay till dark otherwise they may turned orange!!!

I am talking to others guy on the dating site as well because I want to go on dates with various men, I don't think it's a good idea to become anyones girlfriend at the moment as it only ever leads to heartache when the relationship breaks down.

Another guy who is absolutely gorgeous we gel really well but he lives 35miles from me & for me long distance isn't a major problem because there is public transport but I wonder if the guy will find it a struggle.