How soon is too soon..

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Registered: 01-27-2005
How soon is too soon..
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Thu, 08-18-2005 - 8:00pm

How soon is too soon for an exclusivity talk?


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-18-2005 - 8:27pm

It depends...I'm personally not comfortable sleeping with someone unless we've discussed and agreed to exclusivity and in the past where I let infatuation take over, I've had that discussion (and sex ;-)) on the 2nd date.

But I do not intend to do that again ;-)...my current feeling on the topic is that I want to take at least 2 months to date someone and get to know them before I decide whether I want to date them exclusively. So I will defer both the talk and sex for that long.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 4:57pm

Hi,

I agree with Sheri, the longer you know someone, the more sure you are of your decision.

I had decided the same time frame with Tall Man, but it all ended up happening within the first month we dated, and has gone great.We actually sat at his computer and each cancelled our memberships, and got the email confirmation of the same. Therefore, I would have to say that it is an individual decision, though seen without looking through rose colored glasses, if possible!

Some people will thrown down the 'we are on the same page' thing to get you into bed. If it IS the exclusivity talk, there will be no confusion, no fear of expressing yourself, and no 'grey' areas..personally, I feel if they are back online at any time after that, it is time to move on. If you have found what you are looking for, NO need to 'look' further. Some may find that harsh, but I feel that trust is trust; not an iffy thing..like you can't be 'kinda pregnant'!

Talk with your s.o. and the decision should flow freely, if it does not, then you are not ready for it, neither is he.

Good luck
Truly,
Cupcake