How would you handle this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-23-2005
How would you handle this?
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Sun, 06-25-2006 - 10:30am

I've exchanged a couple of emails over the past week with a couple guys on match. Once I mention what I do for a living (bartender), a typical response is "Which bar do you work in, I'll come in for a drink".


Of course I don't have to go into all of the reasons here why this is a bad, bad, bad idea, because obviously I don't want anyone even knowing where I work at this point let alone

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2006
Sun, 06-25-2006 - 10:59am
How about "I'll reveal that once we know each other better"? They have got to understand that without you having to explain. As a former bartender I get where you're coming from. It's so hard to do your job and try to get know someone on a personal level at the same time. I always hated when my boyfriends would come into the bar for many reasons. And that was after we were exclusive!
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Registered: 02-01-2005
Sun, 06-25-2006 - 11:00am
I would just tell them that if you ARE to meet, you'd like it to be when you're off work so you can spend time getting to know each other instead of one of you working.