How would you interpret this?

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Registered: 10-27-2009
How would you interpret this?
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Tue, 10-27-2009 - 4:16pm

I met a guy through a dating site and we had our first date this past Saturday. During a recent email conversation, I'd jokingly said something about not biting his head off and "your head and assorted body parts are perfectly safe with me, I swear" as a reference to times during our date when he seemed excessively nervous. Here was his reply: "I feel that my head and body parts are safe with you. I trust you. LOL But can you trust me? After all, you did look hot."

Is it my imagination, or does the "But can you trust me? After all, you did look hot" comment seem a little creepy? I'd really appreciate any and all feedback. Thanks!

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Registered: 06-09-2008
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 5:48pm

Just my personal opinion but your reading to much into it. You mentioned his body parts....you were being light and humorous...he reciprocated. That is all.



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Tue, 10-27-2009 - 5:56pm
My opinion: it's just a joke, and doesn't particularly mean anything. It's a riff on
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Tue, 10-27-2009 - 7:06pm

I totally agree with the last two posters. I probably wouldn't have mentioned body parts after one date but if I did and got a response in kind, wouldn't be surprised.

No creep alert for me.

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Tue, 10-27-2009 - 8:27pm
But I didn't mention any body parts in particular. My joke wasn't inherently sexually charged, while his was an allusion to rape. I'd essentially said that the entirety of his person was safe with me, while he joked about not being able to restrain himself because I was hot. I've decided that making light of rape just isn't funny and I don't like what it says about his character. I do appreciate the responses, though; they've helped me to process this exchange and decide on the best course of action for me. Thank you.
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Registered: 06-09-2008
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 9:21pm

"But I didn't mention any body parts in particular. My joke wasn't inherently sexually charged,"


Uh ... okay. If you say so.


His post wasn't "making light of rape," it was just making light in a general sort of way, and being amiably jokey. If you want to apply the same degree of entirely literal analysis to your post, it makes light of castration and decapitation: the former being arguably creepier, and the latter even more illegal.

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Tue, 10-27-2009 - 9:53pm
fwiw, to me, your comments about biting (or not biting) his body parts can easily be interpreted as sexual. His comments sound like a light hearted attempt to be complimentary (thinking you're hot), while offering the same level of sexual humor as it appeared you did.
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Registered: 10-02-2003
Wed, 10-28-2009 - 3:45pm

Guy, I have to admit that last year you did not make such a good impression on my when you dissed my date as a liar....(Remember Hot Soup?

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Fri, 10-30-2009 - 5:36pm

You ARE kidding right?


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Registered: 06-09-2008
Thu, 11-05-2009 - 2:34pm

<<<But I didn't mention any body parts in particular. My joke wasn't inherently sexually charged, while his was an allusion to rape. I'd essentially said that the entirety of his person was safe with me, while he joked about not being able to restrain himself because I was hot. I've decided that making light of rape just isn't funny and I don't like what it says about his character. I do appreciate the responses, though; they've helped me to process this exchange and decide on the best course of action for me. Thank you. >>>


Really, he was making light of rape? Do you judge all ppl so harshly? even after you opened the convoe to discussing body parts and safety?