How would you respond to Online ads?

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Registered: 07-27-2004
How would you respond to Online ads?
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Fri, 02-10-2006 - 8:39pm
Because the guy that I am currently dating is either really lazy or not entirely interested, I have decided to expand my dating pool and drop an ad in my local Craig list website and see what comes back.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-10-2006 - 9:30pm

I would just ignore the ones you're not interested in. Personally, I prefer not getting a response to getting one that says "thanks but no thanks".

Sheri

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 02-11-2006 - 12:44pm

I'm with Sheri on this one. I'm in the same situation as you with Craigs List. I put an ad out and in a week received about 30-40 responses! While most were OK and decent guys, at least 10 or more were ones I was not interested in right off the bat. Most of those, I ignored. The only one I did reply to was a guy that claimed he "didn't believe in exchanging pictures but we should meet in person for lunch.". I told him I didn't meet or chat with anyone without a picture. He sent a picture with "OK, here's a picutre, what else?". Whatever! If I'd just not responded, there wouldn't have been anything.

I think that chances are, you'll find that you get nasty or wierd responses to the "no thanks" emails from an initial email to your ad. IMO, if you've emailed a couple times and discover you're not compatible, you can THEN send a quick "I've enjoyed chatting with you, but I don't think we're a match.". You can still expect responses that you might not want, but most guys are OK with that and may even appreciate the response.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 02-11-2006 - 3:17pm

Here's another great reason to just delete the ones you're not interested in... When they first replied to your ad, they were replying to an 'anonymous' address, which if I understand correctly, forwards to your REAL email address. If you reply back to someone you don't want to talk to, you're giving them your real email address, now why would you want to do that??

There are lots of people who do not take rejection well. Do yourself a favor by not giving them ammunition to turn around and be nasty to you... because guaranteed, some of them will.

On the same note, you should be using an email address that does NOT reveal your full name! Check the options and make sure your "from" name only shows the email addy or your first name. There are some real creeps out there so this is a simple way to stay a little safer.

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Registered: 11-20-2003
Sat, 02-11-2006 - 4:42pm

I usually just tell them "I'm sorry, but you're not what I'm looking for." and leave it at that.

Jeanie