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| Fri, 10-07-2005 - 9:50am |
My boyfriend and I are getting together this weekend and I'm bringing my son, which he is aware of. I made mention to bf that my son is really looking forward to it. Here is his response:
"as for your son, I think he's a cool kid, although a bit more energy than I desire to spend on. LOL "
how would you feel about that comment?

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Oooh ouch.
So what happened the last time he met your son? Is your son ADHD? Is he bouncing off the walls.
There seemed to be a tad of the eye roll in that email from him.
Does your BF have kids of his own?
As a single person dating yes it's nice to spend one on one time alone with your SO however if you get involved with a single parent as he is with you that is part of the package. This isn't something new right?
Also, we women tend to analyze every little comment - DON'T ok? You two have a good relationship. If it really bothered him he'd break it off with you. Maybe he was being sarcastic - the thing with email is you cannot convey the TONE so half the time we misintrepret what the other person is saying.
I'd jokingly ask him "in person" not email what he meant by that but don't be so serious; I bet he was joking.
Good luck.
SP
As I said, it wasn’t an intended comment I believe. We women tend to overanalyze and create scenarios that aren’t there. Go with the flow....and have fun. Don’t think so much about it; his actions not words prove he’s into you, bottom line – my advice.
SP
Good hearing from you donna710..
To me his email could be a subtle way of him wanting to spend time with you alone -- OR --whatever events he has planned, he would now need to include doing some kid-friendly events as well ("although a bit more energy than I desire to spend").
Also if your bf has spent time with you the last 4 weekends (without your son) then he has gotten comfortable with that arrangement and although he is cool with your son coming this weekend, he does have to make some adjustments.
Seems like he is compromising in this situation!
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