*Hugs* for the Holidays...
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| Sat, 12-10-2005 - 5:01pm |
I've been seeing a few posts about the holidays and those who are single and lonely during this time. I understand and feel where you're coming from. Though I am blessed in that I have a family to fly to, I still struggle when I look around the dinner table and everyone is coupled up except me. I try to remind myself though that I'd rather be alone than be with the wrong person... But I do know that isn't the greatest answer at times.
I just wanted everyone to know that though this is only an online community, please feel free to share your loneliness here and know there are others facing the same struggle. It's hard enough being alone, but the holidays make it harder... so please know you're not alone and we can all share in the fact that at least we have someone even if it is only online!

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With holiday parties, during years when I'm not dating anyone, I usually pair up with another single person at work & we go as each other's "date". Works pretty well & no one really cares anyway that I'm not seeing anyone. Seems like I go every other year with a real date, then no date. When I do bring a real date, I try to pick some arm candy if I'm not seeing anyone serious. ;) LOL! Then the next day at work I get the "who was that fine looking man you brought last night?" LOL!
Honestly, the holidays bum me out because my ex-fiance dumped me on Christmas Eve 4 years ago. So, I have that constant reminder. I'll be happy when January is here.
OMG Kerry, you're so right. When I feel depressed, doing something nice for someone else ALWAYS cheers me up. Sure it's not 100% unselfish because I'm doing it partially to make myself feel better, but I like making others feel better, too.
Although I miss Christmas shopping for a SO, I like having extra money to spend on my parents. Since I've been living with them since April (at their own request) I am more than happy to be extra jolly in shopping for their gifts this year. :)
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The thing is....I don't have any friends at work. One of the reasons is becuase of the physical set-up. Our company was busting at the seams, so some of the "back-office" functions are working in a completely different building than the rest because of space constraints. I got stuck in the "satellite" building (for the past 3 or 4 years) away from the rest of my department. The only people in my building are those that are at least, if not more, than half my age or that I otherwise have nothing in common with. So, I have not established any friendships with these people.
It's rare that I come in contact with the folks in the other building. So, even though I *might* be able to establish some relationships with these folks (who might be closer to my age and I might have something in common with), I never see them enough to find out. Sometimes I learn (after the fact) that some of these people have done things together after working hours and even though I might have participated, I never get invited because they just don't think of me. Out of sight, out of mind, or out of the loop, I guess. That will change when we build an Operations Center in 2008 (and we will all be together in the same building again), but for now, that's the way it is.
So, I guess to answer your statement, I'd rather stay home than go to a party with basicallly a bunch of strangers.
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Meade, can you tell me what you mean by that?
Call me Scrooge LOL! But I don't consider...... having to buy a dress that I will never wear again, in a size that's 2 sizes bigger than it should be, to sit there with a smile plastered on my face making superficial small talk to people I don't really know, waiting for dinner to be over so I can sneak out, having to watch what I drink because I have to drive myself home no matter what (with Momzilla and the dogs at home, staying overnight somewhere is NOT an option), watching some people who should know better drink too much and make jerks out of themselves at a company function (happens EVERY year).....fun.
Sounds like I need an attitude adjustment, eh? LOL!
Boy do you have the wrong attitude. This party, if anything, is a great place to meet people with whom you work. I used to work in a miserable place that had parties once a month. Nobody in that place ever talked to each other. I would just pick a group of people sitting on the periphery of the party and say, "Hi, I'm Cham, I work in the sales department, what do you do here at Dysfunction Corporation?"
The people were always so grateful that somebody was talking to them. I'd make a note of their names and what they did and everytime I needed help with a specific project I now had a contact in all sorts of obscure departments, this came in very handy. Because of my forced socializing I got wind of gossip and very helpful company info from every corner. You can do nothing but profit if you meet other people within your company no matter how old they are, whoever or whatever their issue is.
Even if you don't like anyone the food is usually pretty good.
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