i could use a little advice please!
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i could use a little advice please!
| Mon, 12-04-2006 - 1:58pm |
i met this, well what appears to be a charming young man and he is only one year older than me....supposedly....i am being cautious but what is too cautious or not cautious enough?

I saw your post on the other board. To me, if this guy is not willing to meet you then you need to keep your expectations VERY, VERY low. You seemed to indicate on the other board that he doesn't want to meet for years and years (you mentioned meeting in your 30s while you are in your late teens now). Quite honestly, if you want a pen pal, great - you can have a great email/IM friendship. But if you will not be meeting for months, years or even ever, you need to focus on guys thate ARE willing to meet you whether that's in school, at work, online or otherwise. Don't sit around waiting for this "charming young man" who wants to keep your relationship online forever.
And also as Kerry said on the other board, until you meet in person, you really don't know what they are about. He could be saying that he is 19 but you never really know. You said you found his parents, but he could be posing as a much younger brother or he could be the parent posing as the son or whatever. I also don't say that to scare you but to let you know that until you meet in person, things may not always be as they seem and you again, need to be realistic.
You're young. Focus on your life. If you and your young man meet somewhere down the line and you're both still available, OK. But live your life - don't wait on it to happen to you.