i did something really bad!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
i did something really bad!
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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 11:40pm

For those of you who know th ehistory..
I sent the lawyer-man e-mail tonight
<<***, thanks for your kind words in your last e-mail. It means a lot to me.
I am really not that nice of a person but it's great that you though of me as compassionate
enough.
I guess our last conversation on the phone caught me by surprise because even though
I had reservations - I thought we got alone pretty well and really you are the only
person I liked very much off of match in the duration of 7 months.
Yes, I had a nice time with you and I think we are both somewhat are off center
people and are somewhat similar personalities so if anything it would be nice to
stay on a friendly terms. What do you think?
I.>>

Someone please shoot me !!!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2005
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 11:45pm
Not trying to be mean or anything - do you know why you felt you needed to do that? I'm just curious. Is it because no one else is capturing your attention?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 11:49pm
I don't know, I just REALLY liked this person.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2004
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 9:30am

If you had to do it, you had to do it. Don't beat yourself up over it -- let him do that. j/k, a little.

I have been obsessed with a guy about 3 times in my life and not once did things end up in my favour. Let's just say I was pushing a door that read "pull".

If your situation is typical, he will have to reject you at least once more for you to move on. Good luck with that!

amjay

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 10:57am
Amjay, you are right.
The best thing he can do for me is not to reply to my silly e-mail and he probably won't!
I don't know why I even did it. It's not that I don't have anything going on. I have my schedule booked :)
I was out last night and had a couple of drinks so maybe that's why. Sometimes my own actions puzzle me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2005
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 1:22pm

You have been SHOT!! What do you mean "I am really not that nice of a person!"

Uh, I don't think you will hear from him again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 2:35pm
I am not that nice because nice people don't gossip and talk badly of others. I am guilty of both.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2005
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 4:57pm
Honey, what the F*&%????? Love ya for what we have all done before, but damn. Ok, so this is my advice to patch things up. Or at least to come off a bit better. If he does respond, which i am not thinking he will, but if he does. You have your foot in the door. Know that you must be a kitty and you just used one of your nine lives. Why? Because he wouldn't respond if he didn't care. When he does respond, take a good 48-72 to write back. Make it short, simple, and funny. Something quick witted, like oh i have been so busy hunting wolverines. I don't know think of something cute. Then don't sign it with you name. Informal, short and simple. I never sign my name until we talk on im. I always make him ask, why? Because it makes me a little mysterious. And that is a good thing. So create a little mystery to yourself. And for goodness sakes, forget your password if you have to, but don't send these types of emails out. Now don't feel bad, I have done this, but worse in real life. At least you weren't in person for it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
Sat, 08-06-2005 - 9:47am
Well even if he does replies which he hadn't yet - I wouldn't go back. I don't know why I did it but I am sooo embarrassed of myself that the thought of running into him by some accident is totally mortifying to me. It's a weird behaviour of mine - I wasn't going to reply to his e-mail even if he sends one back.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2005
Sat, 08-06-2005 - 10:20am
Yes you would......
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2004
Sat, 08-06-2005 - 1:11pm

i don't know the whole story but why did you put yourself down like this:

"I am really not that nice of a person but it's great that you though of me as compassionate
enough."

you are the gem.. and you are nice.. remember that to yourself.

where/what is the post that tells the whole story curious as to what happened?

sounds like you really liked him and I have been there myself.. and you are baffled

but yes don't email or call this man again.. and if he disappears he is not worth your time.. next...


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