i did something really bad!

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Registered: 01-31-2004
i did something really bad!
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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 11:40pm

For those of you who know th ehistory..
I sent the lawyer-man e-mail tonight
<<***, thanks for your kind words in your last e-mail. It means a lot to me.
I am really not that nice of a person but it's great that you though of me as compassionate
enough.
I guess our last conversation on the phone caught me by surprise because even though
I had reservations - I thought we got alone pretty well and really you are the only
person I liked very much off of match in the duration of 7 months.
Yes, I had a nice time with you and I think we are both somewhat are off center
people and are somewhat similar personalities so if anything it would be nice to
stay on a friendly terms. What do you think?
I.>>

Someone please shoot me !!!

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Sat, 08-06-2005 - 1:23pm
thanks rosema, I wish I hadn't done this. Now I am too embarrassed to show my face around town :) I hope this will pass.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-07-2005 - 2:42pm
You're being much too hard on yourself. Stop it! It's just going to make you feel worse. You're only human, therefor imperfect. Relationships are hard. Life is hard. Treat yourself more gently. What exactly happened with this guy? Had you been seeing him for long? Did he say he didn't want to see you anymore? Why do you feel so bad about this email? It sounds like a perfectly pleasant email to me. Be better to yourself, please. You're really not a bad person!
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Sun, 08-07-2005 - 3:52pm
he called today.
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Sun, 08-07-2005 - 3:54pm
And? Did you talk to him? What did he say? What is the history anyway?

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Sun, 08-07-2005 - 4:14pm
the history is - we went out for a couple of weeks, slept together a few times. He called me once to tell me that he likes me but his gut feel isn't right about us in the long run. I told him that I agree that we aren't going to work out for a few reasons. Than he asked me if I still would like to "hang out" together because we seem to enjoy each others company so much but I rejected his offer. I really like him but I am pretty sure that he isn't my long term companion but we had a very nice time together.
So after I sent him that e-mail last Thursday - he called today.
I picked up the phone and I was speechless at 1st because I thought that this was all done deal and I will never hear from him again. We talked for about an hour exchanging stories from dating. I had lots more activities going on it appeared so he came across a little jealous, he kept asking questions about the guys I am dating and actually I could tell his voice started to rumble :) Well to make a long story short we agreed to "hang out" together with no strings attached while dating other people. Please don't judge me but I am sick of feeling sexually frustrated and I am a very sexual person so I thought since now lines are clearly drawn - I will enjoy the benefits until someone real comes along and I guess that would be the same for him.
I know this is not your childhood dream romance but this is how things turned out with him.
I am seeing a couple of other men that I enjoy the company of very much but I am not attracted to neither in a romantic way so I guess this constellation will have to do for now.
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Registered: 07-12-2005
Sun, 08-07-2005 - 4:29pm
I often times reflect on how life and reality totally diverge from out childhood dreams and plans. I think if this is something that makes you happy and satisfies you for the time being, good job. I think far to often as women we get all caught up in the could of, should be and don't dos. Sometimes, being a little more daring even for a moment, can make your entire world seem brighter. I am actually happy for you. Which I know I should be warning you about your heart getting involved. I think you are making yourself happy. You seem to not think about yourself enough, so take this time and have fun girl!
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Sun, 08-07-2005 - 4:42pm

Emphatically NOT "judging" you...but I am strongly urging you to reconsider because this has very little chance of having a happy ending for you...it will almost certainly result in hurt and pain. Plus, my experience has been that when you have someone to fill the gap, you don't really leave space in your life for the real thing.

Sheri

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Sun, 08-07-2005 - 4:53pm
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You are right. I will see him on Tue. and will see if I can do this or not.
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Registered: 03-17-2005
Sun, 08-07-2005 - 4:54pm
I knew it. So what happens when your emotions get the best of you again? I think you're kidding yourself but it's your life and I wish you luck.
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Sun, 08-07-2005 - 5:29pm
I knew it too and yes, perhaps I am kidding myself.