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i did something really bad!
| Thu, 08-04-2005 - 11:40pm |
For those of you who know th ehistory..
I sent the lawyer-man e-mail tonight
<<***, thanks for your kind words in your last e-mail. It means a lot to me.
I am really not that nice of a person but it's great that you though of me as compassionate
enough.
I guess our last conversation on the phone caught me by surprise because even though
I had reservations - I thought we got alone pretty well and really you are the only
person I liked very much off of match in the duration of 7 months.
Yes, I had a nice time with you and I think we are both somewhat are off center
people and are somewhat similar personalities so if anything it would be nice to
stay on a friendly terms. What do you think?
I.>>
Someone please shoot me !!!

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Hey Ivos-
I know how interested you are in this one and how cute he is.
I don't know, I will try keep my emotions out of this one and enjoy the ride. I made a plan for Tuesday. I will spend the night there so I would like to get up early and just get out on my own without the whole breakfast together thing and this way the lines are drawn that he realizes that all I want from him is sex and that is it. I can kid myself all I want by this could never evolve into a serious long term relationship and I told him that today. I think he is the type that if he gets challenged in that way - he wants more and that is why he was all jealous today - asking me all these questions about my date. He asked me how old he was, what he did for a living and if I was attracted to this man. Totally bizarre and I don't really understand it but than again as I said before he is a little off center type of a person.
Edited 8/7/2005 10:51 pm ET ET by ivos2004
My 2 pennies from experience:
It doesn't work. I'm almost 26 & have been doing the OLD thing for about 4 years off and on. I tried this with someone I was completed uninterested in for a long-term relationship while meeting others, too. I think it's fair to say that females are more invested even if it's a casual relationship. ...Think about when he stops calling or doesn't call when you want him to, or doesn't respond to your calls. Or he's dating someone else. How will you feel then?
I think (for women) it's too easy to fall into playing relationship when there isn't one.
Wow, you're going to spend the night with him? I really don't know that I could handle that. Going over, "hanging out" (so to speak LOL), and going home to my own bed... That I could do. But not the whole night.
Keep us (well, me LOL) posted, if you don't mind.
He called me again this morning.. He is one weird guy - and I am using nice words here. Strange - I mean why do the jealous pretend when he doesn't want anything serious out of this? I think he likes challenge and so do I. It will be interesting.
We changed plans for Wednesday. I will keep you posted :)
Hi Ivos,
I hate to be blunt, but it may be a case of he doesn't want you in his life (except for sex) but doesn't want you to be with anyone else either. Please be careful and very safe Ivos, he will probably be sleeping with others also and I'd hate for you to get some yucky disease.
I know for myself I couldn't do the FWB thing because I just get too emotionally involved. I *know* that I would be hurt if I knew he was going out one night with another lady and possibly having sex with her. I would just feel so used, even if we had agreed to the boundaries of the just sex thing. But that is just me.
Since my breakup about 2 months ago with my ex bf, I haven't had sex and do so miss it. I am quite sexual also, but for me I couldn't do the FWB thing just to satisfy my urges.
But I wish you good luck and hope you don't get your feelings or your body hurt...
Sunshine
I am pretty sure he doesn't sleep with anyone else and neither am I. We did talk about "terms and conditions" and one of them that each must tell the other if we want to pursue someone else and it's getting serious. He actually insisted on sex part being exclusive and I specifically brought up the messy part because health is something I don't compromise on. I think we are on the same page here.
I don't know what my feelings are towards him but mostly I just want to hurt him or something therefore I think I will do just fine.
Also, I am going out with other people.
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Did I read that correctly? You just want to hurt him? Why? If I remember correctly he called you and was honest with you and the two of you agreed that it wouldn't work between you. That is much more than you would get from most men. Now you want a FWB relationship with him just so you can hurt him? Where's the justification in that?
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