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i did something really bad!
| Thu, 08-04-2005 - 11:40pm |
For those of you who know th ehistory..
I sent the lawyer-man e-mail tonight
<<***, thanks for your kind words in your last e-mail. It means a lot to me.
I am really not that nice of a person but it's great that you though of me as compassionate
enough.
I guess our last conversation on the phone caught me by surprise because even though
I had reservations - I thought we got alone pretty well and really you are the only
person I liked very much off of match in the duration of 7 months.
Yes, I had a nice time with you and I think we are both somewhat are off center
people and are somewhat similar personalities so if anything it would be nice to
stay on a friendly terms. What do you think?
I.>>
Someone please shoot me !!!

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I don't know and I am not saying that I am after revenge. I would like it if we can spend time together without anybody's feelings being hurt. There is a certain risk for sure but I feel the need to test this to see if it might work.
I have tried this type of r/ship back in my very early 20's with the guy that I dated and we remain friends to this day granted we don't see each other very often and we have moved on with our lives. In that case I was totally feelings free for him and it worked out great.
So who knows, it is a temporary constellation but it might work for a while. Although I do have this urge to cancel at the last minute :) Sorry, couldn't resist this :)
Ivos-
This is just my opinion.....But I think everything about this is wrong.
CL-Truewild1969
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You said in your sentenance that, you wanted to hurt him. Maybe I misunderstood your meaning because, from what you've posted he's done nothing to deserve you wanting to hurt him.
Unless that would be your way of staying detached and not getting emotionally involved.
Whatever your reason, good luck with it.
I have been thinking this too. I struggle with this. I might get cold feet.
>>>You deserve better.<<<
I always struggled with this. When I would hear someone say it, it was meaningless to me because inside I didn't believe it. All I wanted was someone that was enough, and the fact they wanted to be with me was enough. It's hard to stand up and say "I deserve better" but it's impossible to do it IMHO when you don't believe it in your heart.
After one failed marriage, one broken heart, and lots of therapy, I know I'm finally ready to find someone who deserves me. Maybe the OP isn't.
Edit: maybe a bad experience with FWB will be the thing that gets her open to the realization she is worthy of better.
Edited 8/9/2005 11:48 am ET ET by firstamendment
I can certainly understand what you're going through, because lately I've been having similar thoughts about my last OLD casualty...except in my case I've been resisting the urge to email him and propose it. The urge comes and goes with the level of my sexual frustration. I'll tell you what I keep telling myself:
Just don't do it! No matter how much you THINK you can emotionally detach, most women just can't and you're only going to be hurt by this in the end. Also I could never be with him and enjoy the sex like I did because I know the emotional detachment would only sabotage the freedom, joy, trust and fun that made it so good to begin with.
You said he's acting jealous...WTF is up with that? Sounds like some egotistical manipulation going on.
Like it's been quoted around the board "Don't waste the pretty".
Take care and good luck.
Chele
About this guy - one may never know for sure how it will be but I feel I can handle this.
I wish you the best of luck!!
CL-Truewild1969
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>>>Why give them a second chance to reject you!" Amen!!<<<
That is perfect. That is something I needed to hear too. Thanks.
OK, I'm going to add my two cents here.
I'm sorry, but I don't buy any of this. I think you sent the email because you want him back. You are going to have sex with him because you want a RELATIONSHIP with him and you are hoping that the FWB will turn into that.
You clearly still have feelings for this man. You previously went online and tried to figure out the other women he might be dating. You were very angry because you felt he was looking for someone with a better a job or more financial security than you had to offer. You wrote once that he was taking advantage of you by suggesting sex without strings. You have written time and time again how much you liked this guy. And now you just want to hurt him? How is it you feel you can be physically intimate with THIS man without any problems when there you are still caring strong feelings for him?
I know we are supposed to be a kinder, gentlier board, but I feel like some of the other posters are tip-toeing around here. You are free to make whatever decisions you like, only you have to live with your decisions.
But if you are going to do this, go into it with your eyes open and admit to yourself what is really going. You want a relationship with him and you are hoping FWB will lead to that. While I'm not going to say it doesn't happen, it rarely happens. Instead of spending all this time and energy chasing after a man who is so WRONG for you- why not open yourself up to the universe, so the RIGHT guy will come along.
Just my two cents...
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