I didn't IM - so he says "I'm gone"
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|Fri, 10-17-2003 - 4:56pm|
I then had some communication with a few who seemed really promising. All disappeared after a couple of emails or the first phone call.
Then this week I was contacted by someone sounded really good. Let's call him J. He sent me a "tease" and we exchanged two emails apiece. But...two days ago I had gone out, left my computer on and hadn't logged off the dating site. When I returned I saw J had sent an IM. I had been busy with work but today had some time so I wrote and explained that I hadn't been by my computer when he sent the message. I said that I thought that I had my IM settings set to show me as "away" but apparantly my preferences reset. I also said that with online dating I've become a little uncomfortable with exchanging IMs. I then sent a few more lines asking about his work and asking about a trip he told me about.
This was the response I got from him a few minutes later:
I was shocked by this reaction. It felt like a slap in the face. How exactly was I ignoring him?? If I don't respond instantaneously then I'm ignoring him? And...according to him, I'm the worst kind of person there is to be?? Who is he to judge me?
I know that this speaks volumes about his character and I'm better off knowing this now rather than later. But I am really ticked off. Normally I'm thick skinned when it comes to online dating. But up until now I've only had to deal with being ignored or subtly turned down. I've never had anyone condemn me. I'm not in such a good mood today so I think that's also making me a overly sensitive.
Thanks for listening.