I don't get it?!
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I don't get it?!
| Thu, 01-04-2007 - 10:48pm |
I consider myself an attractive woman, I have an intelligent profile and plenty of pictures. Why are the guys that email me much older, unattractive, and overweight? There are plenty of guys out there that I would consider in my league that I have emailed, and I never get a response. I just don't get how this is supposed to work. I don't feel like I have an inflated ego, but I am also not going to pursue anything with someone that I'm not attracted to at all. How do I get the guys that I'm interested in to email me back?!
If someone can look at my profile, am I doing something wrong??? I'm venger76 on match. I'd appreciate any constructive criticism I can get! Thanks :)

I don't get it either. Your picture is great (I could only see the default since I'm not a member)you have a wonderful smile and your personality really shines through on your profile. You come across as someone who is very positive, upbeat and fun. The only thing I could suggest is that maybe the first two paragraphs are a bit of an awkward way to start? I found that your personality came through better toward the end, so maybe guys aren't getting all the way to that point? I really like the last sentence. I think it very clearly defines what you are looking for. But, again, if they aren't reading to the end that doesn't really help you.
I didn't have much luck with match. I got the same thing - just a bunch of old, ugly wierdos. And I got very few responses from the guys I winked at or emailed (and I consider myself decent in the looks department). I've had better luck with yahoo personals and even some luck with myspace (but that has MAJOR drawbacks!)
How long have you been on match? Maybe you should just give it a bit more time. It took me about 3 months before I really felt like I'd gotten into the swing of things. And maybe now that the holidays are over things will pick up! Good luck!
Hey there. I liked your profile. I agree with the last poster that the first two paragraphs don't quite flow with the rest of your profile. So maybe some tweaking would be in order for that section.
Also, something my date said to me tonight was that long profiles can sometimes be intimidating. You write a lot and you also shared a lot about yourself which is cool thats kinda how I did mine. This guy I went out with basically said that he was afraid he wouldn't measure up to what I wrote and I wouldn't like him because my writting style was so well and he wasn't sure what to say to me. Obviously he did eventually because I ended up going out with him, but he said he had my profile for a few weeks before he figured out what to write. I took it as a completment but it had me thinking that maybe thats why I have a hard time getting people to respond to me. Maybe I intimidate them? So maybe that could be your problem.
I just thought I'd mention it since it kinda made me think about mine and how it might be a little intemidating and maybe it just takes longer for guys to respond. Of course.. if the guys are intimidated, maybe they aren't the ones for us anyway. :) Don't worry the right guy will come along. Good luck!
I wonder what the men you messaged had in their profile that you thought was a match for you? Was it similar interests? Or was it that they were a bit of a "bad boy" but not? Or was it that they say that they are funny?
Frankly I think your profile is great what it says but I'm not in your age bracket (I'm 53) so I look for different things or that I am "wiser" LOL.
I did notice you used "curvy" as your body type. That is a code word for fat for me so the men you message may think the same way?
Another thought was that you did not list any active activities though you did allude to snowboarding. A possibility is that guys in that age bracket want someone to like football, go snowboarding with, or ...
Good luck,
Mark
HEY! *I* am "curvy"! lol
1st off, *I* will date you! lol (KIDDING!)
Ha! Well I do like blondes, but ...
Thanks for all the help! I guess I was figuring that 'curvy' meant that I have a figure, i.e. chest, waste and hips. I really don't like the options for body type on match. I don't like the intonation of 'About Average'. It leaves a big margin, esp. if you look at some of the guys who I would consider heavy set saying they are 'about average'. I guess I was trying to be honest, but I don't want people to make assumptions either. That's a good thing to know.
I think maybe my profile is too long. I can admit that I don't always want to spend the time reading an entire profile if it's long. Guess I'm back to the drawing board.
BTW, I did get one response to an ice breaker I sent on yahoo last night. I might have been getting a little frustrated..tiny bit peaved.
Krismae,
You are a very beautiful girl. I am not just saying that b/c we could pass for twins, but, I have found that it's a little in the marketing. What kind of guy are you looking for? Hippie? Punk rocker? Market yourself that way. What happens is that the unusual profiles are the ones that stand out. Once I changed up my headline and specified what I was looking for, I got a ton of responses. My user name on Match is Crystal2342 if you want to check it out.
Good Luck : )
GB
Gal Blondie
Yeah, I think I'm going to have to work a little more on the text.
Did you have your primary picture taken professionally? I like it.
I was reading about Lookbetteronline.com, and I'm wondering if anyone has ever tried any of these companies that help out with profiles. I think I'll stick with my do-it-yourself version for a little while, but I was just curious.
Hey,
No, it's not professional and I haven't used any services, but after i changed my headline and pics, I did get a lot more reaction and I met a super bad ass guy : )
Crystal
Gal Blondie