I dont think it's going to happen

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Registered: 04-04-2003
I dont think it's going to happen
Wed, 07-02-2003 - 1:06am
Hey Everyone:

Well my excitment is gone from me meeting my friend CJ. In my mind, I don't think it is going to happen, in my heart I don't think it is going to happen. I mean it is July and we havent figured out anything about us meeting. I havent talked to him in a week. When I see him on-line, I hurry up and sign-off so he wont think I am "looking for him" or some crap like that. I tried to call but no answer and not a return phone call. I feel real silly being "Heartbroken" over a guy that I haven't even met in person. I mean I just thought that he would be different. I don't know if I ran him off or what and I have a feeling that I won't ever know. I guess I believed all of the stuff that he has been telling me over the last five months. Discovering how much we have in common and etc...

I have a feeling that he was telling me all of thet stuff just to pacify me. You know to keep me content. I guess he got tired of saying them because he didn't mean them. Have any of you ever felt like that someone on the other side was telling you osomething just to pacify you? Cause that it was what you wanted to hear?

Like I said in my mind I dont think it is going to happen. But my heart is saying a totally differen thing. It is saying that it will happen and to keep hope alive. I don't know what to follow? I guess if you can help it would be great. If not thanks for lsitening because I know that none of my friends would understand.

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Registered: 08-21-2002
Wed, 07-02-2003 - 1:16am
Good Evening Candierain -

I can't say as if I have been in your shoes, but I want to give you a huge {{{{HUG}}}}. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!!!

God Bless You Sister!!!


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Registered: 04-16-2003
Wed, 07-02-2003 - 9:50am
Well, you may not like my advice, hon...but I am going to give it anyways. Drop him!

The reason I say this is because it sounds like he could be stringing you along. You have to ask yourself some serious questions here. Is this the type of relationship you want with a man? Always waiting for him? I say, you deserve to meet him and be happy and if he cant give it to you, then you should move on to someone is willing to give you the moon.

On a more personal note, I met a guy on line one time. We talked for months before he would call me on the phone, even after I asked several times. I felt like I was begging really. It was awful. Then when he did, we got along great and things seem to heading towards the meeting, well...like you I waited and waited. He just kept stringing me along telling me he wasnt ready and all this other stuff about work. WEll, I was head over heels for this guy, and really wanted to meet him. It seemed perfect that we would be together and all this. He had a kid, I had two. Both of us had this life we wanted together. Again, stringing me along. Well, I finally had to end it. HE was not going to meet me. Something wasnt right about him, and for a man to live in Flordia, me in Tennessee, why wouldnt he want to meet. Crazy.

So, my advice is to seriously to let this one go if he cannot committ to a date to meet. Simple as that. NO matter how you feel about him, it is all in vain if he cannot meet you. What is the point in continuing if you cannot pursue a real relationship. This is where the fantasy of being on line can come in and you dont want that to happen. Goodluck and really think about things with this guy. It doenst sound promising.

Gail :)