I feel like I don't *click* with anyone

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Registered: 10-17-2004
I feel like I don't *click* with anyone
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Fri, 05-06-2005 - 6:22am
Really.....it's so frustrating. Does anyone else feel this way? I am running out of men on Match!
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Registered: 04-13-2003
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 6:35am
I feel the same way as you. I only met two guys from online and both turned me down. I know the first one didn't like the way I looked but the second one, I have no idea why he didn't *click* with me. It makes me feel like I'm not likeable or something. I don't seem to attract guys in person either so I don't know what I'm doing that's so wrong.
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Registered: 05-16-2004
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 6:39am

Define "click"?

I define click as nothing more than mutual desire for a second date.

I found that about 40-50% of the people I met would be suitable for a second date. Many don't go farther than the second date. This is not uncommon.

Don't put too much importance into online - just because everyone has a jazzy profile and writes about "friends first" and wanting more than looks -- doesn't mean they are serious about that.... (another online lesson).

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Registered: 10-17-2004
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 7:02am
Kathy....I could have written your post. I've never attracted anyone off line either. I am average looking and have a nice personality but I just am not appealing to men, I suppose. I just am baffled by it. I am so tired of getting disappointed.
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Registered: 04-13-2003
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 7:08am
Shazzy, I noticed you're a virgo too, the same as me. Maybe all of this has something to do with that...lol.
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Registered: 10-17-2004
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 7:20am
Maybe that's true!
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 9:56am

I've had trouble finding enough *click* to even bother reading all the way through

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 10:12am

I felt the same way when I was on Match. Then I realized I felt the same way on Yahoo and American Sigles! LOL

I thought that by going to anther site I wouls see different faces and for the most part I did. Sometimes the same guys were on all 3 sites!

Some people may suggest to increase the radius in which you search, but that was not possible for me. I felt I was at my max.

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 1:57pm
Yes shazzy,there are others of us on this board who can attest to the fact that at times it does feel like your're just not clicking with anyone .... :)
I recently just had a first meet within the week with a man that was super kind, super polite and definately a true gentleman. I mean heck, our meeting even lasted a full two hrs. in which we talked n' shared laughter/smiles etc..
As I drove home I started doing my post-meet analyzing. This guy had followed through on all of his calls & emails, was super nice, is financially stable, etc. etc. etc.
However, I found myself dwelling on the age difference between us (6 yrs.).
Okay, so heres a guy that has stated his interest in me and I am sitting here feeling like "I'm just not 100 % sure". Maybe the problem is with me. Maybe I am just too particular for my own good and I can't see or acknowledge a potentially good thing even when its staring me straight in the face. Am feeling a bit like truewild did in her post.......
I keep dreaming about and hoping in my heart to meet a gentleman that is the "complete package" but also looks like Patrick Dempsey... Am I being unrealistic to want to have a gentleman in my life that is attractive and meets the attributes on my non-negotiables list ??????? LM :(
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 2:13pm

If you're serious that you're letting a six year age difference be the one thing that keeps you from exploring this further, then yes, I would say you are being a little particular for your own good. If you could at least *imagine* kissing him, I'd give it at least one more date.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 8:06pm

oh my gosh....someone else who thinks that Patrick Dempsey is gorgeous!! mmmm baby...

anyway...I feel the same way...that's why I'm off of online dating for awhile. Just not 'clicking' with anyone. Either that or I feel a click and they don't..
As I've heard it said "it's the nature of the beast" of online dating.