I finally figured out....

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Registered: 03-16-2006
I finally figured out....
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Tue, 05-23-2006 - 12:34am

why men just send out generic emails to women. After almost being on match for nearly 2 1/2 months, I have spent a lot of time and have sent out 46 emails and not received back one reply. I followed the advice on this board by reading and personalizing the email to each woman (not to knock the advice because it's sound and makes sense). Maybe it's Jersey girls, yeah they may be fun, but they are so friggin shallow. Sometimes, I don't even know why I try.

May be some of you can help me with my profile, I'm edgehead682. I appreciate your advice.

Thanx
Tom

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 9:42am

Tom - I like your profile.

If I were a Jersey girl in your age bracket, I'd respond.

It's a numbers game. We say that here a million times a month. You'll need to send out hundreds of winks/emails just to get a coffee meet.

It sucks, but that's the game of OLD.


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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 9:57am
I'm with sisfox.
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 10:19am

Hi Tom,


This is just a suggestion since you asked, you don't have to take it at all.


I'd take out your income - it says you make less than 25K a year. A lot of women might/will pass you up based on that as a possibility of lack of emails.

 
 
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Registered: 03-16-2006
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 1:35am

Thanks for your complements, it renews my faith in women! At least I know I'm not crazy, especially after reading a bunch of guys profiles. A lot of them seem bland and generic. Must be mass winking going on since some of them look like they couldn't read and write at a 7th grade level. And you gals are right, there must be twice as many men as women on OLD. I guess the man upstairs must have some sort of plan, I just wish I could get a hint or something. SP I did change the income thingy, though student kind of gives it away. We'll see what happens

Tom

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Registered: 05-22-2006
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 10:19am
I think you may have a little bit of new OLD impatience going on too. I remember when I started OLD about 2 1/2 years ago I was sure I was going to meet the man of my dreams right off the bat. Now I can look back and even though I am still keeping my fingers crossed I have learned a lot about myself and the process along the way. It has made dealing with waiting and the unavoidable rejection a lot easier and I know I am a lot closer to knowing who I want when he comes along. Maybe start thinking of this as a long distance race instead of a sprint. If you reach the finish line earlier rather than later all the better.
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Registered: 03-03-2004
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 12:54pm

Tom, I think your profile is good. You sound interesting and intelligent. However, some of the wording in your profile was a little hard for me to follow. For ex., after you wrote about helping your dad, there was no period before going into the next sentence. Sometimes there were too many words like the. I know that when I read a guy's profile, I skim it quickly at first. If I don't get it right away, I usually don't give it a second read. I expect intelligent guys to be understandable and to strike an emotional cord of some sort.

That said, I agree with the others that it's a numbers game. The guy that I recently met and liked said that he gets one response to every hundred winks, etc., he sends out. His profile was a bit off-the-wall and some people probably wouldn't take him seriously. Bottom line, though, put a little of your own personal flair into a profile. The right girl(s) will see it and like it. My own profile basically lists what others might like. It's not very colorful, but it allows others to project what they want. It's hard because you want to be yourself but not run them off. Good luck.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 4:50pm
Whoa, I completely missed that. Thanks for pointing that out to me!
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Sun, 05-28-2006 - 4:54pm
I guess I have to laugh at myself reading back on the thread about my rant on guys that read and write at a 7th grade level.