I give up.
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| Wed, 05-31-2006 - 7:14pm |
So I finally found one guy on match.com who didn't disappear shortly after I agreed to meet him. I had a very nice meet-n-greet lunch on Monday. The problem was that he liked me an awful lot more than I liked him. I mean, I thought he was a nice guy but he stirred no emotions. I was willing to go out with him again, but then he started talking not only about the next date but the one after that and all the fun we would have in the future, etc. etc. It was too soon. I don't want to lead this poor lonely guy on.
Meanwhile, a guy I was really interested in, who had been exchanging two and three page e-mails with me every 24 hours for almost a week suddenly stopped writing. It was really surprising because it came right after he gave me his regular (not match.com) e-mail, his name, his IM. He said he was "looking forward to hearing from me." I replied within the same timespan as before, but I e-mailed the regular address instead of going through match. I gave him my e-mail address and my IM. Silence.
I suppose I can feel good that I don't treat people like that. After I've exchanged a couple of e-mails with a guy and I am not interested I reply briefly (one or two sentences) explaining that I don't want to continue the communication because of X (some polite, partly true, brief reason) but that I have enjoyed our communication and wish him well. Any guy who doesn't do as much for me doesn't deserve my being upset when he decides to disappear.
Elsa

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Well, I wasn't actually looking for "the love of my life." (I figure I've had several loves in my life, but I wouldn't mind having one or two more before I die.) What I was looking for was an attractive companion or two. So far, it's not promising.
How nice that you can get five guys "lined up" to have coffee with in one week. After three months of OLD, I got ONE guy to actually meet me in person. And if all I wanted was to have a guy to go out with, he would have done the job. He was definitely smitten with me. (He is still e-mailing.) But he is not "the one" and he wants to be, so it wouldn't be fair to him. (I would have preferred it if he hadn't gotten so excited about me so quickly. We could have dated a bit before I had to say that I couldn't date him.)
So I do give up for the moment. By this I mean that my profile is off for a while. Among other things, there just aren't that many college-educated men in my age group who are available, reasonably attractive and not too crazy. I think I've gone through almost all the possibles (that is, either they've rejected me or I've rejected them or there is mutual non-interest). Maybe in a month there will be some new faces.
Good luck with _your_ search.
Elsa
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