I got aggravated

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Registered: 12-28-2004
I got aggravated
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 4:33pm

Well, I got aggravated today and cancelled my eHarmony membership. I'm still on yahoo plus it's cheaper.

Sent a message to one guy a couple of weeks ago. Its was really nifty too. I told him, "Yahoo didn't have an icebreaker that said what a gorgeous smile you had." (I thought that was really inventive LOL) I also told him I have a picture available if he would like to see it. He replied Friday night back with a thanks for the compliment, he wanted to see my pic, and he answered my "conversation starters." COOL! :)

I in turn (the next late afternoon) replied thanking him for his reply and made my picture visible to him. Even asked him how the potty training was going with the new dog. He mentioned that in his message to me. COOL! :)

Have I heard anything else from him.....Well .....NO!

I guess working for an attorney is rubbing off on me, I'm very prompt in replying to people so I think they should be the same. I try to keep in mind that things come up like vacations, sickness, computer viruses things like that. But good grief. Heck, maybe my picture is turning them off. I'm average size, I'm not a goon or anything! Some guy on eHarmony did the same thing. We got to the emailing stage, I emailed him and blank, nothing. But then again, I relayed that whole situation during a most embarrasing moment post earlier. I didn't rattle on like a total spaz with this new guy. I asked him about his dog!!!

Being new to this, I'm finding this very aggravating. And, it's not just OLD either. RLD is the same. I seem to get left wondering and hanging! Oooooo, maybe the big M is hitting...I am 41! LOL

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: emma_b2
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 5:10pm

That's why I make my photo visible from the start. I would prefer that people contact or respond to me (or not) knowing what I look like, so there's no awkwardness.

I'm sure you look just *fine*, you're just not his type.

Are you the one who lives in a small town, is that why you don't want to post your pic? If that's the case, that's a legit reason, but you're going to have to be prepared for this to happen a LOT.

Sheri

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Registered: 12-28-2004
In reply to: emma_b2
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 5:21pm

Yeah, that's me.

I understand the picture thing with guys, but I would at least appreciate a reply. Heck, they can tell me I'm a dog if they want to, that would be a lot better than not knowing....just left hanging, twisting in the wind. LOL

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: emma_b2
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 5:30pm

Oh, see, I would MUCH prefer to get no response!!! Ugh, the thought of getting an email like that makes me squeamish, LOL!

I can infer his lack of interest from his silence, thank you very much ;-)!

Sheri

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Registered: 07-21-2004
In reply to: emma_b2
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 11:21am
The trick is to get yourself to a point where you don't feel like you're being "left hanging." It's easier said than done, especially in the beginning of starting OLD. I, like Sheri, prefer to simply get no response rather than a negative one. But different strokes for different folks. The best thing to do is to not expect to hear back from a guy once you write to him. Expect nothing until you have an established "thing" going on. :)

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Registered: 09-15-2003
In reply to: emma_b2
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 11:37am

OLD can be tough. You need to go into it without huge expectations. When you send out an email/wink/tease- just send it out without any expectation of getting a response.

If you don't hear back from someone, it's their loss. It just means they weren't the right guy for you. Don't get discouraged though. It takes a lot of weeding through, but OLD can be a great way to meet people.

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Registered: 12-28-2004
In reply to: emma_b2
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 12:41pm
I never thought of it that way. Thanks. I'll try that. I think after 17 yrs being married and 4yrs divorced, I'm ready and I want it now without all the bull****! LOL!!!!!!
Definitely going to step in the bull**** but learn to step to the side of it along the way.
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Registered: 12-05-2004
In reply to: emma_b2
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 2:31pm

eeeek Emma...I wouldnt want a guy who could respond with a negative take on my picture. I'd rather he have more poise than that and be silent and gone like the wind. ('cant say anything nice..dont say anything at all' thingy).

Believe me...once you have to do that yourself...you won't think about how its leaving you hanging when its done for you. For whatever reason...they don't respond. Period. End of story, wasn't going to be a match etc. etc. Tons of reasons and most to never know. (mine is easier...i am fat lol and i assume that or that i am not built enough or bimbo-ish enough)...and i don't question it ...believe me there are many that will wink at you, that don't respond back to your winks and emails ...that you'd be GLAD THEY DIDN'T hahhahah....

Good luck on your new journey =)
Lizzie

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Registered: 12-28-2004
In reply to: emma_b2
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 2:55pm
Thanks for the input lizzie......I reminded myself after I posted this that initially I thought, "at least I will get my skin thickened up"