I hate being in limbo

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I hate being in limbo
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Fri, 11-24-2006 - 2:28pm

So I haven't heard from "that guy" since Monday.

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Fri, 11-24-2006 - 2:47pm

I hear ya! I doubt he knew when he made the "maybe" plans that he was going to blow you off, but still, it's frustrating.

That's why I really try to discipline myself to assume that every contact I have with a guy is going to be the last time I hear from them, even if they make firmer plans than that. There are just too many flakes out there. He may still call, who knows, but the fact that he didn't call Tuesday when he told you he would makes me think he's a flake.

Sheri

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Fri, 11-24-2006 - 3:24pm

I agree.

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Fri, 11-24-2006 - 3:37pm

Oh, no, you didn't jinx anything! I'm a big believer in the whole "if it was meant to be" thing. A relationship or person that's right for you isn't going to disappear because of something trivial like that, ya know?

But yes, I understand getting your hopes up even though you're trying not to. I allowed it to happen a couple times myself recently despite my best intentions (including one where we've even gone out a few times), and it is disappointing.

How lovely that he's posting that on Myspace. That tells you something about what kind of person he is, I think...an inconsiderate and thoughtless flake at best.

As for the friend...I would just stop emailing him if it reminds you too much of this guy.

Anyway, I'm sorry you are having to go through this, it's no fun!

Sheri

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Fri, 11-24-2006 - 7:24pm

I gotta say it again ... I just get the heeby jeebies about Myspace. Granted, I havent really REALLY been on it at all, but it just seems, I dont know - Juvenile? How serious can someone BE if they have all these "freinds" & their pics & thier communication all public ... & then other people (like his freinds) contact you, & he is making plans on line for everyone to see.

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Sat, 11-25-2006 - 3:22am

Just to clarify...he wasn't posting anything gender-sepcific - just an open invitation for "anyone who wants to come play cards" at his friend's house could call him...which I guess technically means the invite was extended to me as well...but still.

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Sat, 11-25-2006 - 9:24am
Ah .. ok. Thats a bit better, lol.

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Sat, 11-25-2006 - 1:07pm

I wasn't thinking that what he posted was gender-specific. That doesn't matter--it's still rude and thoughtless, IMO, to post something on myspace about being free and looking for plans when he'd suggested that the two of you might go out that night.

Sheri

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Sat, 11-25-2006 - 1:57pm

That sucks, but I agree with the others. This guy sounds like an inconsiderate flake and you are lucky he pulled this crap now before you got involved. But that doesn't change the disappointment; I know how it feels, but there are million flakes out there, unfortunately. Just remember that it has NOTHING to do with you!

The right one will come to you when it is meant to be. Hang in there {{{hugs}}}

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Mon, 11-27-2006 - 9:04am

Oh, okay.

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