I know this has been asked before, but..
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| Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:38pm |
but.....
I really need to know the best way to handle it.
I emailed a man for a few days....and then he called last night. I know that I definitely don't want to meet him. He was so lifeless and seemed to have no sense of humor at all. I didn't get good vibes from him. Otherwise he seems like a very nice man, but not for me. I'm not putting him down, just trying to explain why I am not interested.
He emailed me today and asked if I'd like to get together on Saturday.
How can I handle this? A big part of me wants to email him back and tell him that I just don't think we're a match, but another part of me wants to ignore his email so I don't have to deal with any further questions. I, also, so don't want to hurt his feelings.
I know I'd rather know point blank, so I didn't sit around and wonder what happened. This has happened enough to me, believe me.
What would you do?

Just thank him for the invitation, but you have to decline.
Then block him.
Hi,
Going with Sis on this one..it is like taking off a band-aid, better to do it quickly and be done with it; that is the most respectful way, and happens before any more feelings can get into it. Wouldn't you rather it happen to you that way? That is how I always tried to look for the solutions to OLD probs.
The block is a good idea, as some people like to throw a little snake venom at you, when rejected. Better to put up the cloaking device when you pull off the band-aid, and be done with it. Reading those kinds of notes is Never much of a Bambi moment; not 'Happy' for anyone, even if you know it is coming from the bitterness of a rejection.
We have All had that call where the person seems to have the world's lowest blood pressure on Earth..Ding! Next! There is someone out there for them, but it is Not you.
Roll on, Little Rock!
Truly,
Cupcake
On one hand, you don't owe this guy anything because you haven't even met, but on the other I think it would be nice to just send an email letting him know you don't think there is a match.
JMHO.
Hi Kerst!
I would do as most of the posters have suggested.
CL-Truewild1969
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