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I Know I'm Going To Get Flack for this..
| Tue, 11-08-2005 - 10:24am |
but alot of this is true...a person does not have to go to extremes with this, but a little tweaking might go a long way...
http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?threadid=88119
Edited 11/8/2005 10:24 am ET by cbmroz

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In the rural mid-west, that seems to be the case. There are more people and more opportunities in bigger cities. Anyone I know who has a profile online (locally) is doing it for the same reasons that I am; you just are not meeting people within the limited population that you live in.
And I'll clarify again that some people are willing to travel across the country to meet someone new. I don't fall into that category, but I have heard of stories where that happened. Some of us aren't able to pick up and move as easily as others.
Edited 11/8/2005 5:22 pm ET by mitsy2
I so agree with you. I am a nice person and always upbeat and interested in the guy I am meeting for the first time. I have had some incredibly wonderful first, second and even fifth dates. I sincerely showed interest, undeniably....only to have them ghost on me. I have learned that no matter how good the date goes, you can't possibly get your hopes up. All of the men that have ghosted on me after 3-5 dates have admitted that they have issues stemming from past relationships. They are all in their 40's and unbelievable fragile.
I have, also, found that there is no effort put out on the man's part. Many of the men I have met are so passive and careful. I'm afraid to come on too strong so I show my interest without hounding them....waiting for them to reciprocate.
It gets incredibly frustrating. I can attest that the posted article is most definitely not accurate in many cases.
That's basically why I'm taking a break from OLD for now. I'm sick of paying almost $20 a month for yahoopersonals and almost $30 for match.com matches when nothing pans out. In fact, there seems to be very few new profiles on Match at all. Same ones continue to pop up in my matches and I only corresponded with one guy from that site and he "ghosted" on me after almost 2 weeks - we never did meet. He lived about 75 miles away, and I can't help but think that he thought that was too far a commute to date someone.
As I TRIED to explain previously, when you live in a rural area, there are virtually NO dating prospects right close to where you live. You almost have to look outside the county or in some other towns in order to meet anyone new. I stay in contact with only one guy I've met from an online service, and he lives 60 miles away and has an on-call job that is 24/7, so there is little time to even see each other. He's going through some changes with his job now, so hopefully he will have more free time at some point, but I'm not going to get any hopes up at this point. All the other meets or correspondence with others ended up being a waste of my time and emotions.
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