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|Tue, 11-17-2009 - 12:54pm|
This is the title to a book I read about a year ago, and I got it out today to re-read some sections. I enjoyed it all over again. The author is a woman who at the time of publication had met 65 men over a 6 year period in New York and had still not found a boyfriend.
Anyway, there was a passage I had marked which summarizes what she feels people who had success (i.e. met a SO) with OLD:
"...What are doing differently from the still-at-it? They all share a Who I Am and What I Want that's clear, yet flexible. They stayed enthusiastic about the technology even when it delivered disappointment; they didn't generalize out from bad dates into sweeping critiques of whole genders. They came to online dating the way E. B. White said you must come to New York: prepared to be lucky."
I've been feeling pretty burned out again with OLD, and I would hide my profile right this minute, except it seems that the time leading up to the holidays is usually a "busier" time with OLD. I suppose people are fearing that repeat of another lonely Christmas/New Years. Anyway, I just wondered what other people do to stay motivated, and/or if you were successful with OLD, was there something you felt you did that "unsuccessful people" did not?