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| Tue, 04-12-2005 - 6:27pm |
I read an article once that stated as a man becomes more secure in a relationship the frequency at which he communicates (phone/email) will drop off. Sometimes significantly. I also read, and I can't remember if it was that same article, that he can also start changing his "priorities". For example, in the "pursuit" stage he may skip a BNO or leave work early to keep a date, whereas later on that may change. The things he put on hold in the beginning start to re-establish their place in his life.
I also recall that neither of these situations were necessarily an indication of a lack of interest. Just a guy feeling SO scure that he didn't need to continue "chasing" his love interest.
I would like to know what everyone thinks of this and if they have ever experienced this themselves.
I only ask because (yeah, you guessed it) this seems to be a pattern that's forming in my current r'ship (6 months). I guess we're just passing into a more "comfortable" stage?
I don't really think there's anything significantly wrong. No feeling of doom. Just kind of has me scratching my head! LOL

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Thanks SP and Amjay. The odd thing is I agree with both of you. On the one hand I don't want to play games (never have), but on the other, I don't want to create a situation like Amjay describes. Hmmmm....
Excel is a good tool. Just set up a couple columns.
-He called
-I called
-He decided what to do on a date
-I decided what to do
Monthly you can figure out - perhaps by percentages - where the division of responsibility fell. As the volume of tracking grows you might even consider a PDA or another type of tracking device which would allow ad hoc tracking of stuff while you were on the road or on a date, etc.
Look at it this way-you’ve been together for 6 months (you didn’t just meet) he’s in it so far for the long haul.
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That is exactly the conclusion I've come to. Including the phrase "screw it". LOL
I've decided that I have had a full day of angst over this and I'm done. Thanks SP!
LG, I can't tell sometimes when you're kidding and when you're not. But I got a chuckle from it anyway.
And, no, I'm NOT looking to go tit for tat on this. I was just trying to get a feel for what the heck is going on. Just being insecure little me. :)
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