I see the same people online all the time

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Registered: 01-02-2008
I see the same people online all the time
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Fri, 07-22-2011 - 11:18pm

Everytime I look at POF dating site I see the same people over and over. I feel like who are they looking for and are they just shopping around and not emailing people or writing to anyone..

I always wonder how guys try and get women on dating sites.?

I see this one guy on there like 24/7 and wonder what the heck is he doing? Is he just writing to a ton of women and hope a few respond?

I dont even see enough men on POF that I would be interested in and dont want to just sit there on a dating site and look for a needle in a haystack because that is what it feels like.

Is this how men do it? they just sit there on the site and hope for women to respond and the more time they spend on there the more women they can attract.

I mean do these men ever go out and do anything? Its like they are on the site all day and night. I know this because once in awhile when I log in t hey are always there.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sat, 07-23-2011 - 7:58am

I think what may be happening is they just stay logged on, not necessarily searching or anything. I think some of them have had incredibly bad results and just keep hoping they will finally meet someone. I think some of them are just plain undesirable and can't get a date to save their lives. And, because POF is a free site, they just leave their profiles up forever.

I too see the same guys on Match.com who have been on there for years. But then, so have I. And in my case, I just haven't met "the one." I am definitely not a loser, so I just have to assume that many of the men who have also been on a long time also just haven't met "the one." Right now I am on hiatus from OLD, but plan to "reenlist" at the end of summer. I'm sure I will once again see all of the same guys and maybe a few new ones.

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Registered: 07-23-2011
Sat, 07-23-2011 - 11:37am

I agree, I found that too when I used POF. I am sure there are some that do sit there all day...but I am sure a lot will either stay logged in or check from their phones too.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 07-23-2011 - 1:28pm

oh; I understand what you guys are saying but sometimes when I log in and leave the window open it automatically shuts me out after awhile and I have to log back in with my password..

There was a guy who I was talking to for a bit and after sharing stories he then tells me we live too far from each other. we sort of do but then I got annoyed at him thinking then why did you contact me? I said to him why did you speak with me for so long and share life with me?

I just wanted to meet him one time and not marry him? he said that he thought we would click and he didnt want to take the chance of meeting and then be heart broken? what??? made no sense to me.

anyway; I still see him on there 24/7 I guess searching for women.. It makes no sense that he would rather be on there 24/7 and looking for non compatible women instead of meeting me atleast one time.?

Go figure!!!

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 07-25-2011 - 3:36pm

Hi

chaika

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Registered: 07-28-2011
Thu, 07-28-2011 - 11:57am
What amazes me, is the guys who are not *all that* and say in their profile how much an overweight woman disgusts them! Who the h*ll do they think they are! But then, I guess they are saving me from wasting my time with someone so unbearable.
Does anyone have trouble with men who look like they are American, only to find out that they are from another country and they are instantly attracted to you - like a leech!!! I have had several of these encounters. You talk to them for a day and they are ready to put you on a pedestal and get married immediately. SCARY!!
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 07-28-2011 - 9:45pm

I am afraid that some of those men from foreign countries are really scam artists, which I learned from sad experience--after that, I am very wary of people who come on too strong right away.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Fri, 07-29-2011 - 1:28am

Ah Nigerian 419 scam eh?

chaika

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 07-29-2011 - 11:03am

Well it wasn't Nigeria, but it was close.

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Registered: 07-31-2011
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 2:58am

I think it is true of both men and women you see online. One must be careful and take time to check a person out before deciding. I think video chats can be very helpful because you can see them and how they act. It gives you a good way to determine if you should ignore them or not.

luday

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 3:46am

Very true I wish I had taken the other who showed such passion.

chaika

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